If you seek to UNDERSTAND your spectator - rather than to BE UNDERSTOOD yourself - you can learn much more than you might imagine. Often times if you LISTEN, a client's questions will TELL you what they need to know. If you just stay aware, they will often tell you themselves what their future is likely to be - based on what their OWN projections are about their future.
For example, recently a caller to a psychic on a television show asked "What do you see in my future concerning romance? Do you see me going back to someone from my past, trying to restart something, would that work? Or do you see someone completely new?"
The impression the psychic followed was contained within the question itself, at least in part. The spectator was CONSIDERING trying to go back to an old flame - a romance that did not work before (obviously, she was no longer with him). But she did want a romance, and saw her future as being involved with someone. All of this is SUGGESTED within the question itself. Fortunately, this psychic was listening.
So, our wise psychic friend said in response, "I see you getting back together with an old friend, but not in a romantic sense. You will be able to have a new kind of relationship with this person - a good friend that you can hang out with at times, go places with, that kind of thing. But as far as ROMANCE goes, this is probably not the person. I see someone new in the picture with whom you may have a true romance... "
The spectator was predicting her own future, and our friend heard it.
When a spectator speaks to you, or asks a question - LISTEN. They are probably trying to tell you their own future quite clearly. The problem is usually that the spectator is doubting their own ability to perceive themselves. They doubt themselves, so they need someone else to confirm that this is what they are saying the future will be for them. LISTEN for them to TELL you what their future will be, and you will not only accurately see into the future, you will understand the spectator, and may reinforce what the spectator chooses to have happen in their life.
Of course, if the spectator focuses on only NEGATIVE aspects, this is something that you do NOT want to reinforce, although the spectator certainly can cause such things to happen to themselves. In such cases, we suggest that you pace and then lead them as we have discussed. Lead the spectator to get PAST the negative points, then lead them to a more positive and productive outcome.
For example a spectator might say "I'd like to believe things will be different this time, but just when things get good, everything blows up in my face. Are you saying it won't happen like that this time?"
In response you might say "Yes I see where this negative pattern rears its ugly little head again, but this time you can deal with this in a new way - you choose to do what is truly RIGHT for you this time, and avoid the pitfalls that you have struggled with in the PAST. I
see where this will be your opportunity to BREAK this negative cycle once and for all, and the results you receive by taking this new approach will change things for you completely. Things will be much better after this - but only if you refuse to fall into the same old trap that you USED to fall into... Understand?"
LISTEN, listen, listen. HEAR your spectators TELL YOU their future predictions. The spectator is likely to know what they will cause in their own future. Let them know what the predictions are as you receive them, and adjust these impressions to a positive perspective if necessary. But above all else LISTEN. This alone may be one of the most important pieces of insight we can give to you. Spectators tend to predict their own futures. LISTEN to them.
As you listen to your spectators, affirm positive futures. Adjust likely negative happenings. See productive areas of the spectator's life coming to pass. Keep these concepts in mind as you receive your impressions. People tend to create many of their own problems. Their worries and fears and doubts are self-fulfilling. But equally likely to be fulfilled are positive projections. Give the spectator these options, and the future can become much brighter indeed.
Remember that we do NOT suggest that you merely tell a spectator "just what they want to hear". Nor do we suggest telling them the future is "all rosy" with no stumbling blocks or obstacles at all. This is not only unrealistic, it may be detrimental to a client's coping skills. Understanding and "reading" that some problems may occur is merely a reflection of natural happenings in life. If a client thinks "everything will be fine - no problems", they may go off the deep end when something doesn't go exactly as planned. By acknowledging challenges in life, and pointing out that a client can deal with these effectively, is what we are talking about here.
We remind you that people tend to create their futures, based on what they believe their futures will hold. Reinforce the good, minimize the negative. Turn negatives into ultimate positives. In this way, the spectator will likely experience what they have been told.
Of course NEVER go against your own impressions. These tools are meant to help you communicate your impressions, in ways that can be beneficial to your spectators. These are tools for more productive communication, and this is the way in which they are used best. Use these tools and you, as well as your spectator, shall encounter many positive and productive future happenings.
Listen. It's one of the most incredible tools you may ever learn to use.
FACTS, FIGURES AND DETAILS
One of the greatest methods people use to convince others that something is true, happens when the person speaking tosses around lots of details and figures or supposed "facts". We tend to think something is legitimate when there is much detailed information associated with what is being discussed. The more details, the more we think what is being said might be real.
In readings this is a subtle yet powerful tool. You may not know any real details, but studies show that you don't have to know these things - you can "imagine" them! You might argue, that the spectator of course knows if these details are correct. Really? You might be surprised.
What if a reader said to you:
"While there have been some childhood experiences in the fifth grade that held over and influenced your decisions about High School, I see where the way your family differed at times and this became the major focus for reevaluation of your educational plans."
What was that? We have found that people will tend to consider what was said as potentially viable - based on the amount of apparent details that were involved. Notice the detailed grade level in this example is a specific number. There is the notion that these experiences were prolonged. That these prolonged experiences and your family's viewpoints differed "at times". That all of this then lead to another sequence of events, including a review of educational plans (another set of details and events).
Specific numbers, specific areas of your life, specific sequences that lead from one to another, all of these things along with some nominalizations or unspecified words, SEEM to be making a specific reference. Naturally there is no "real" reference at all, but all of the specific details make it seem to be real and specific.
Here's another example:
"It seems by age eight you discovered something about yourself, although around the age of twelve or thirteen, you were reconsidering it. You seemed to be thinking perhaps of going in another direction altogether, but some of the struggles were too great, and you chose what to do in part based on the acceptance of others. Some things never change... In this case though, it seems to have worked for you, thank goodness - and you are taking responsibility for your own life".
Again notice the vast sequence of supposed events, the details of age, spiced with nominalizations.
Let's consider a few more examples:
"The first time you really went out on a date, it wasn't quite what you expected. Your second and third dates weren't all that different. Then I see by the time you felt you really fell in love, it was real for you. At least you thought it was then. Still somehow those experiences keep influencing you, as if they were happening today - just below the surface - when they are all in your past, and they can only do harm if you continue to let them. I see where this should be fading from your mind now, if it hasn't already done that, once and for all..."
Notice all the details of various points in time. It sounds as if this might be true, considering all the exact details being mentioned. How about another:
"I see where in two or three weeks a surprise may alter what you felt this year was going to be like for you. It won't be until several months after this that you truly understand what a gift this is for you. Over the course of several years you will see how expansive and positively influential this whole situation has become. At first it may seem like nothing - not even worth noting. But you can bet that as the months go on, the pieces of this puzzle will fall into place. In January you'll be looking to the future with this, though you may doubt yourself by July. Your year though, seems to start in the spring this year, so hang in there. Instead of doubting yourself, have confidence. In the end of this cycle, it will all be very clear to you. You should be very happy and grateful by then to say the very least!"
Notice the details of specific pieces of time, specific months named, various sequences or time lines, even suggested mood swings. We can become very "detailed" about emotions too:
'The end of the year may see you on a roller coaster of seeming ups and downs, but this will pass. The feeling of being tossed off a cliff into an empty swimming pool will turn out to be landing on a soft pillow of confidence and new found security. Instead of bouncing off the walls, you'll be swinging from the highest trees, so to speak. The clouds will begin to lift around summer, provided you take appropriate actions. You will know what to do then, because your choices will feel like either staying stuck in a dense fog, or flying far above the clouds of doubt. I suggest you remind yourself to take action when it presents itself to you, and make choices based on reality, not fear. In the new year then, you will truly fly".
Or we might be "specific" in very simple ways:
"The tenth of March or May ... it begins with the letter M... May, I think it is ... will provide for you a new opportunity should you chose to take it. By the seventh you may feel like giving up completely, but you'll see by the tenth what the truth is... Keep alert of your REAL feelings, and don't settle for something you know is not right for you. Watch television only when you feel practically pulled to do so. That's when you'll see what you need. It may take a while".
"You will run into a man who seems a bit ridiculous to you, but who will say one simple thing you find rings true. Take heed. It may be the only time he will ever say this, and the only time you will ever see him. He'll ask you for something you can easily give to him without much effort or concern. This will be more than a fair exchange for him and for you. You won't believe how meaningful this simple exchange becomes in time... "
The same day we wrote this last example, an interesting thing happened. Kenton had completely forgotten what had been written. As Kenton was on his way to a meeting, he stopped by the bank. There, an odd appearing man approached Kenton and began speaking to him. The man said a few things Kenton really had been hoping to hear. All the man wanted from Kenton was to have someone validate his feelings, and listen to his point of view. Kenton was more than happy to do this. What the man said was very simple indeed. But it was very meaningful to Kenton. Only later that evening did Kenton realize something had been written earlier that seemed related. When he checked precisely what had been written, he found this to be a perfect "prediction" of what was to happen later in his day.
The point in all of these examples is NOT to "memorize" such words or lines. They are extremely basic and simple examples of how you might apply the use of details to create readings. Just keep in mind one simple basic rule: "Details Equal Reality". The more supposed details and specifics you can add in, the more realistic your reading will appear to be. More specifics, more details, the more likely the spectator will feel the reader is trying to be legitimate at least. Only phonies don't give you specifics. Fakes are "just general". How many times have you heard such comments from the public? Now take advantage of these beliefs. Turn it around to your advantage. Overwhelm them with specifics and details, numbers and "facts". This way even the most skeptical people will believe you are at worst, "really trying".
Just remember the phrase "The Devil is in the details". If you care about helping others with your readings, you'll find "Angels" live there too.
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