Note: This pattern should be used only after you've been sleeping with her for a few weeks and really feel like you want to pursue something long term with her. The pattern works by eliciting from her highest values in a relationship and then finding out what is she needs to experience in order to know those values are being met. This takes out all the guess work and gives you a means to either make her feel totally fulfilled, or absolutely violated, whichever serves your aims best. Notice how you use expressed agreement as a softener. Also notice that you don't want her to name the qualities she's looking for in a man, but rather the values she'd get from the relationship; in other words what a man having those qualities allows her to experience. We'll break this pattern into three phases:
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To do this successfully you need to build a clear path of action by using tools if necessary. These tools would be facts, evidence and stories which you know they can relate to. Plus you always want to have their best interests at heart, in other words, you know what is good for them