Note: This pattern should be used only after you've been sleeping with her for a few weeks and really feel like you want to pursue something long term with her. The pattern works by eliciting from her highest values in a relationship and then finding out what is she needs to experience in order to know those values are being met. This takes out all the guess work and gives you a means to either make her feel totally fulfilled, or absolutely violated, whichever serves your aims best. Notice how you use expressed agreement as a softener. Also notice that you don't want her to name the qualities she's looking for in a man, but rather the values she'd get from the relationship; in other words what a man having those qualities allows her to experience. Well break this pattern into three phases:
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