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Ok. Last chapter we had a look at weasel phrases. In this chapter, we're going to look at the power of the super-weasel phrase "HAVE YOU EVER". You're going to be seeing this phrase pop up time and again in the patterns I'll show you, so as you can see it's quite important.

Now remember, when you set out to influence, control and direct a woman's thinking, you don't want to make it seem like that's what you are doing, or else S-N-A-P goes that fishing line. This is why we seldom, if ever, give a direct command, because she might resist it.

Here's where the super-weasel phrase "HAVE YOU EVER" comes into play. Let's say I wanted a woman to experience a state of total fascination with me (Fascination is a good place to start with ... it's not quite as intense as total sexual arousal, but sets a woman up for that and anything else you want).

I could walk right up to her, introduce myself and then try to directly command her to feel fascinated by saying something like, "I command you to go inside yourself, remember a time when you felt totally fascinated by a man, and then feel that way about me!".

It's not too likely that that would work.

However, saying something like this can, has and almost certainly will work (notice the embedded commands, which I've capitalized and put in boldface!)

"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as you were there, looking at him, and you started to LISTEN CAREFULLY, it was like his voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, and the rest of your environment just disappeared, and your entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he described, you found that you could just PICTURE IT CLEARLY? So you know, if he were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlight beach, with your perfect partner, you could SEE YOURSELF there with him, just enjoying what that would be like?"

Now, once you've got her fascinated, you'll want to move on from there to other states, but the point is that the fascination is now there to set her up for virtually anything. She won't be able to look away from you or see or notice anyone else in the room. I don't care if the best looking man in North America walked in booky-butt naked ... you're the only one she's going to see. And since you dropped in a suggestion that she clearly picture anything you suggest, you've set her up to be an excellent trance subject, even if she normally wouldn't be!! Ha!!

This all works because the phrase "HAVE YOU EVER" only seems like a question. Actually, it is a COMMAND!! It's a COMMAND to go inside your memory, and find a time when you experienced the thing that the person who is talking to you is describing. But people don't consciously perceive it as a command, so they don't resist. This sets them up for anything!!

Ok? Does that make sense? Here's the general formula for using "HAVE YOU EVER" and then I'll go on to demonstrate some specific applications:

1. Think of the state you'd like her to experience.

2. Start out by asking, "HAVE YOU EVER" and then name the state you want her to experience.

3. Begin to describe what it would be like to experience that state, and use this as an opportunity to drop in some embedded commands that would help her to experience that state.

4. Really get her into feeling of what that's like.

5. Link it to yourself.

Ok? So now, let's show you another specific: getting her to feel a state of instantaneous, incredible connection to you!!!

Why Creating A Sense of Incredible Connection is Important

I realize I'm repeating myself here, but this is CRITICAL, so listen up: for most women, creating a sense of incredible connection and bonding is a required step before you get on to the sexual arousal stuff, and in fact, can be the introduction to a good sexual arousal pattern. You might find that this sense of connection is so important to women that simply generating it, without doing any of the more sexual stuff, is sufficient by itself to get her to go totally ga ga over you.

You see, for most of us guys, sex is a matter of dumping our loads. We'd do it with rocks, trees, mud, anything.

For most women (at least most uninfected, non-diseased women) sex is very largely an expression of an emotional connection.

So, here are some great patterns to get you started. Here's one I like to use right away, when I first meet a woman, say at a party or bar.

After making her laugh and introducing myself, and maybe a minute or two of fluff talk, I launch into the following:

You: Have you ever felt an INSTANTANEOUS connection with someone? (Point to yourself) Like maybe as you were there, looking at them, and you started to LISTEN INTENTLY, it was like there was a cord of LIGHT (gesture from your solar plexus to hers) going from you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW, WITH THE WARMTH of that connection, maybe you were even able to IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture either to your left or to your right ... at this point it really doesn't matter), say six months from now, still FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as having been the start of it?

You: See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO

THAT and LET IT HAPPEN INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers) because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening, as you REALLY LISTEN to someone (point to yourself), and you START

TO RECOGNIZE those values and qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself ... (pause) ... WITH ME that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION and really FEEL THAT GROWING BOND.

Get the picture? See how we start out naming the state we want her to experience and then help her good old unconscious mind along by describing how to do it?

Of course, this general pattern works for the other great super weasel phrase ...


(This, along with it's close relatives, "What would it be like if" and "What would it feel like if" all work the same.)

Here's a good, "What's it like when" to use as a horny message to leave on a woman's answering machine. Only do this AFTER you've gone out at least once, or already got her hot and horny on your first meeting.

"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that whenever you find yourself really listening, it's like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around you, and spread all through your body, maybe to the point where you find yourself thinking about being with him in a ... mmmmmmm ... special way, in a way that would make you both feel ... mmmmmmm, you know? So much so that as those pictures in your mind get bigger, and bigger and more intense, and those feelings ... mmm ... intensify you could just experience an overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him ... to the point where you just had to pick up the phone, and invite him over?"

Did you notice now this pattern totally directs her internal feelings and pictures by describing them in detail, and therefore directing her to focus in on how it would feel? A good understanding for you to have about any form of persuasion or influence is:

When Skillfully Done, There Isn't A Bit Of Difference Between

Describing and Directing!!!

Chapter Four Review and Exercises

1. "Have you ever" works because:

(A) It acts as a command, while seeming to be a question

(B) It causes people to enter the state or undergo the experience you name after the phrase "have you ever"

(C) It sets up a description of the process or state you want people to experience

(D) All of the above

2. If you want a woman to get hot and horny:

(A) Order her to feel that way

(B) Ask her, "what's it like when you're incredibly attracted to somebody?" and then go on to describe that process and link it to yourself.

(C) Tell her all the reasons why your a great guy and how lucky she is to be giving you some.

(D) Show her a picture of Ross Jeffries.

3. By properly describing a state of experience, you are in fact:

(A) Wasting time you could be using to pressure her into sex

(B) Wasting time because you could be ordering her flat out to feel that way

(C) Directing her to undergo that state or experience

4. If you're going to describe an intense feeling state you should:

(A) Only talk about body feelings

(B) Use pictures and sounds, as a lead in to body feelings, which you then go on to describe and amplify

(C) Start with body feelings and end with pictures

(D) Use lots of foul, dirty language to get her hot!


It takes all types to run this world, and this next super-weasel pattern will help you deal with a type of woman who might otherwise drive you bonko! You know the type: someone who has to disagree or argue with everything you say. The technical term is "mismatcher" or "polarity responder", but the practical term is: bitch.

Anyway, negation allows you to play off her natural tendency to negate or gainsay everything that comes out of your mouth. It works by putting the word "not" or "don't" in front of the suggestion you want to embed. ("Shouldn't" "don't" and "can't" also can work just as well!). This is a perfect response to a woman who is resisting you by saying, "We really shouldn't be doing this!".

You response, using negation would be something like: (can you pick out the embedded commands? In this example, I've put them in italics)

"You're right. I shouldn't be pulling up your top. I shouldn't be sucking on your incredible breasts. And you don't have to feel the incredible pleasure you aren't experiencing right now!"

As Bugs Bunny would say, ain't I a stinker?

Would you like to see a combination of quotes and negation? What's that you say? You would?

My friend was shocked the other night, when a woman walked right up to him, looked him in the eye and said, "it's not important that you imagine me going down on you all night long!"

Can you see how these patterns can work together to multiply their power? Of course, as I said to a friend of mine "you don't have to imagine yourself six months from now, already having mastered these patterns, and looking back on today as having been the start of it!"

(Special Note: Chapters 6, 7 and 8 all deal with what I call accelerators: patterns designed to create states of intense lust and arousal! Use with caution, and only after creating those wonderful states of absolute comfort and total, timeless connection!!!)



Ok. Let's say you've already managed to capture a woman's attention and directed her into a state of fascination, intense connection, or something of that sort. Now you want to move things along by getting her hot and horny ... moving her into a state of intense arousal.

Now, there are several tools to do that. One of my absolute favorites is the pattern called quotes.

Listen: quotes is not that unfamiliar to you already. Remember when you were a little kid, and saying "fuck" was a big deal, because it use to get you punished big time?

Personally, I used to get my mouth washed out with soap, so I hatched a scheme. Rather than say "fuck" directly, I'd tell my mom what some other foul-mouthed little kid down the block said. That way, it wasn't like I was saying it ... I was just repeating something I'd heard.

So I boldly strode into the kitchen, approached dear old Mother, and said, "Mom! Mom! Tommy down the street said, "fuck" and "cocksucker" !" (Hey, I figured, since I was going for it, I might as well go for it!)

Of course Mom just said, "Nice try, kid" and slapped me silly, but that's not the point. The point is, with a little subtlety, you can use quotes as an accelerator or amplifier for the states of arousal you want a woman in.

Let's say for example you'd like for a woman to imagine you going down on her and her feeling really hot and horny. Those are pretty good pictures for a woman to be running in her mind, and feelings to be having when she's with you, wouldn't you agree?

Of course you would! So here's how to do it! After a general discussion of how the mind works, and using that to get her in states of intense fascination, connection, etc.,, you'd say something like this: (oh, by the way ... notice the embedded commands are in boldface)

You: Some guys are so crude. I mean, I was raised to be at least a little respectful, but you wouldn't believe what I saw this dude do the other night!

Her: What?

You: He walks right up to this girl, looks her right in the eye and says, "Can you imagine me going down on you all night long, and you getting so hot and turned on that you were begging for it?"

You: I mean, can you believe that? Did he actually expect her to picture that all night long, and even become obsessed with those kind of thoughts?

Now, if you really want to play with her noggin' you could keep going from there. You could really get her dripping in her seat by saying something else like:

You: Now, see, if I was a girl, and someone tried something like that on me ... I'd play right back with 'em. I'd look 'em in the eye and say, "Oh yeah? Well, you know that feeling you get just before you have an orgasm? When the pleasure is just like building and pulsing and pounding through your body? If you could imagine that feeling, could you feel it right now?

Isn't that great? Remember, quotes, like the other accelerator patterns I'll show you, should generally be used after you've established that sense of connection, etc. You can embed virtually any weasel pattern, phrase or series of commands inside quotes and keep it totally safe, since it isn't like you're saying it to her. You're only quoting what someone else said!

Understand also that you can combine quotes with virtually any other pattern I teach, if for some reason you don't feel comfortable being direct. QUOTES DOES NOT HAVE TO BE LIMITED TO THE "SEXUAL AROUSAL" PATTERNS!!!!

So here's the general formula for using quotes:

1. Think of what it is you'd like to say to a woman, but couldn't say to her directly.

2. Start off by telling her something like, "You wouldn't believe what I heard this person say to someone! He walked right up to her and:

3. Stick in what it is you'd like to say.

4. Stick in a command to make her continue to think about it.

Simple, yes? Later, we'll show you how to integrate the use of quotes into other patterns, but now let's go to another accelerator which is:


Now, the difference here between this and quotes, is that with quotes, you're quoting what someone else said. With this pattern, you're talking about another person's EXPERIENCE as a way of getting your target hot and bothered.


What's the feeling of realizing you're really attracted to someone? My friend Kim was telling me that her roommate has this best friend, Dawn. And when Dawn starts to notice that growing attraction, it happens in a certain way.

Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to REALLY PAY ATTENTION, she just becomes aware of certain things ... like the rhythm of her breathing, and the beating of her heart, and the outline of his face ... so as she becomes aware of all these things, one particular feature of his face just starts to rivet her attention, so she becomes totally absorbed in the connection taking place ... and as that's all happening, it's like the warmth of his voice, the deep rich warmth of it, just starts to penetrate her consciousness, and spread all through her body, and as her heart beats faster and her breathing increases, that warmth just heats up into a fire, a fire spreading through her chest and down through her belly, a fire pounding and pulsating all through her, down to where she really longs to have it go, until that desire for him just BECOMES UTTERLY OVERWHELMING, and she just SURRENDERS to it completely.

Now, notice we aren't asking or demanding or suggesting that she directly experience all this. But by describing the experience of another (or even ourselves) she has to undergo the experience for herself!!! And please bear in mind we set her up to accept all this by FIRST creating states of intense connection!!!

So now you see how to use either quotes, or describe another person's experience to get women into the juiciest states of dripping wet arousal. Go use it on someone TONIGHT!!!

Chapter Six Review and Exercises:

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