Here's a SECRET about the way that the MIND WORKS and how you can USE THIS for seduction!
The mind keeps FILE SYSTEMS and organizes thoughts, feelings and states in file systems. In his book, "The Secrets of Communication", Peter Thomson talk about this concept.
To illustrate, what is the first thing that you think about when I say think about a big 4 legged animal that begins with the letter "E".
You'd probably say "Elephant". That's at the top of most people file systems.
Here's how I USE THIS for seduction.
To induce a state of "Attraction", I want a woman to open her FILE SYSTEM for attraction... and more specifically to put me in it.
I also want to be put into the "Ideal Lover" file as well as the "Perfect Guy" file if at all possible.
I will do this by Asking questions that cause her to go inside and OPEN these files. (So tell me about your perfect guy... how would you know that this guy was perfect for you... how do you know that you're attracted to this guy... )
It really doesn't matter at ALL what her answers are. In fact, each woman has not only different
"End Values" (The quality that they are after) for what they want in a perfect guy, they also have different "Means Values" (How they know).
Do I care if I don't satisfy her values fully? No... in fact all I care about is that I have opened her "File" and that I am in it.
One change in the way you SAY something that will get her to LINK what she FEELS to you
Now how do I put myself in those files? Many different ways, from actually demonstrating value, to telling stories about how in the past you met those values, to using "linkage" words like "THIS" person (vs. THAT person) and "THESE" things (vs. THOSE things) that associate her into the experience.
On a more subtle Neuro-linguistic level, people will LOOK to certain places and use certain gestures and say certain words when they open their particular "files". Noticing these is what calibrating is about.
I notice these things and mirror them back. These are so called "Anchors" that link external to internal reality. Like Pavlov's Dog.
It's better to use someone's own anchor than trying to create a new one
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