Ways To Improve Self Confidence
Strong and Confident You
Within this audio series and guide Strong And Confident You you will learn everything you are needing to know about Hypnotherapy To Release Your Inner Strength And Confidence.
Positive Emotional Energy is the exact same thing as Self-Esteem. Being full of Self-Esteem is the exact same thing as the state called HAPPINESS. I have never heard of a person who is chronically depressed or anxious having a DURABLY high Self-Esteem. I have also never heard of a person with DURABLY high Self-Esteem get very depressed or anxious for very long. Do you see what this means SELF-ESTEEM is the ultimate antidote to non-biological DEPRESSION and ANXIETY, and we are going to learn EXACTLY how to build it in a way TAILORED to YOU. The Anatomy Of Self-Esteem There are TWO KINDS of Self-Esteem In order to feel perfectly HAPPY, we need EQUAL amounts of both of these Self-Esteems. Just as a car needs both gas and oil to run properly, humans run on energy too Emotional Energy.
Here's another thing Social Robots do They treat Women completely differently than they treat Men. If they are around women, even at a lunch for work, they feel a stange shot of adrenaline and feel as if they have to sarge. Interactions with women are no longer normal they become special occasions to feel a sense of self-worth. Your self-esteem is contantly at the mercy of the reactions of women.
Now, you know you're great and you can have the quiet self confidence that if someone really knew you, they would think the same thing. If you get a response from a women that could've been viewed as negative before, from now on you know that it's either because they just don't know you yet or it's just their automatic behavior. The question is, do they deserve to be with you
Consider these phrases control issue privacy issue self-esteem issue confidence issue an issue with relaxation a commitment issue issues with your self issues with your family work related issues payment issues maturity issues responsibility issues emotional issues childhood issues , etc. If you can link a word that is not an actual physical thing (nominalization) to the nominalized word issue , people will generally find a way to make sense out of this in their own lives.
Do you and your life-partner want to be more creative Does you or your friend want to become more intuitive Do you want to become more spiritual Do you want to become more creative Do you want to build your self-image Do you want to build personal self-esteem or self-esteem in you partner
Saying yes when a no is meant erodes self-esteem. Remember always, that each one has the right to say no. When pressured for an unwanted yes , practice the Broken Record technique when declining with a no. Repeat your no's with as few excuses as possible. While doing so, keep in mind the cost (such as time, stress, resources) an unwanted yes might extract from you. Hang on to your no firmly. Ensure that the no is accompanied with a calm posture and even tone of voice.
The sense of responsibility, self worth and permission one has in relation to the required behaviors and outcome. Even when people want an outcome, trust that it is possible, believe in the actions that have been defined in order to reach that outcome, and have confidence in their own abilities to perform the necessary skills and actions, they may question whether it is their responsibility to perform the required actions or reach the outcome. A person may complain, It is not my responsibility to make myself healthy, learn or become successful. That is the job of the experts. I want to be able to rely on someone else. People may also doubt whether they deserve to be healthy, to learn or to succeed. This is an issue of self esteem. Sometimes people feel unworthy of health, intelligence or success. If a person does not believe that he or she deserves to reach a goal or is responsible to do what needs to be done in order to achieve it, then it doesn't matter if he or she is capable,...
With practice you will be amazed at how well these improvised pick guns work. With this knowledge of how to construct these lock picks, you will seldom run across a lock you cannot pick. This gives a real sense of power and self-confidence. Just remember practice, practice, practice. Don't get discouraged. You will learn the art.
A common scenario is that of a client who has some important or unpalatable life-decision to make. Bascom Jones (1989) notes that such people know what they ought to do but can't find the courage to do it. What these people need is self-confidence and belief in themselves I just give them a push in the right direction. (p. 6). In this way, the client can be relieved of some of the responsibility for their choices and actions, as any blame can later be laid at the door of the reader.
Close your eyes and see the cue image in the forefront of your mind. See it big, bright, and close up, just like you would if you were experiencing it for real. In the lower right hand corner, see the ideal self-image as smaller, darker, and farther away. While you make the swish sound, immediately flip the two pictures so that the cue image becomes small, dark, far away, and disappears as the ideal self image becomes really big, really bright, and really close. Do make the swish sound as you do this exercise because it will help you unconsciously move the pictures around. Pause for a moment, open your eyes to clear your mind, and then reset the pictures so that you see the cue image big and close and your confident self in the lower right hand corner. Then make the swish sound as you transpose them in the same way you did previously. Continue to repeat this pausing, resetting, and swishing of pictures until you can simply look at the cue image and your brain automatically gravitates...
Women are masters in smelling out a lack of self-confidence. Modeling in NLP means that you can learn to assume determinate traits in your personality and skills, if you start to model them. Read the Alpha male qualities and start to train yourself - with self-confidence and persistence - to assume them.
A 'daddy's girl' is a woman who had a very close relationship with her father when she was a little girl. He was loving and caring. He believed in her and supported her. He may have even taught her how to throw a baseball or throw a punch. She thus grew up with a high self esteem, a healthy relationship with men, and a good sense of When I meet a woman, the first thing I test for is a good self esteem. Somewhere in the conversation, I will pay her a compliment and see how she responds. If she belittles the compliment or down plays it, I know she has a low self esteem. The compliment will tend to break rapport, as it should. But if she takes the compliment well, such as responding with a genuine Thank you then it may be possible that she has a good self esteem. The compliment will tend to increase rapport, which is what I want. Then I will test for Daddy's girl. I will say to her Wow, it is obvious that you have a very good self esteem. That is refreshing. I bet you had a close...
As a consequence, it is suggested that any time you are doing a reading, even an effect that involves a brief profile, consider that what you are doing may subsequently have a major impact upon the self-concept and the self-esteem of the individual. Whatever your intentions, be exceedingly careful about your phrasing of any comments. Listen to yourself on tape. Have others listen with you. Watch for such phrases as you allow others to treat you like a doormat, to take advantage of you, and replace them with something akin to I sense you might profit from becoming more assertive. Realize that just as a prediction you will meet someone named (like, looks like, who is) is likely to be fulfilled, so may any inference or statement about physical or emotional condition become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The final part of the show is very important to me, he says. That little five minutes where you really get the chance to give the people some benefits from it. It's just quiet, it's not preachy, but it's there you will have a great self-confidence.'hate' is a word that you'll lose from your vocabulary as though it's a process that's beneath the dignity of your intellect.their powers of concentration are going to be better, they'll be able to relax and sleep better.
In Seduction for instance, we create this part of a woman by first Cold-reading her (that is, accurately Pacing her current reality), and then giving her a self-concept and self-image to live up to. (Leading). Actually giving this new part a persona and a Name is a blatant way of doing this. 2) By doing this I give them a self-image to live up to and support them in this
Deep within you want to be desired for your personality, character, your soul, your spirit, and it gets very old and tiresome and very boring to continually have men at your fingertips. I know it's pleasant to be pursued, great for your self esteem but as we realize it won't last forever. I think you would have two significant love relationships in your life.
Sometimes our self image results from having adopted the same view of ourselves which we believe our parents held about us. If we believe a parent labeled us as stupid, we often keep that belief as part of our self image. This pattern helps to identify these dysfunctiomil introjects and to shift them into a resource. It operates from the pre-supposition that all behavior, physical and emotional, has a positive intention. When we can identify this intention, we c m use it to change our beliefs. Concept. Not infrequently, we speak and behave in a way that doesn't demonstrate healthy self-love, but self-contempt. This pattern works very effectively for building a more complete identity. By increasing a sense of worthiness, the self becomes more integrated. Then other abilities such as self-appreciation become possible. Designed to use for ego strengthening and self-esteem enhancement. Source Suzi Smith and Tim Hallbom.
Many of these women are going to be hung-up sexually, depressed, suffer from low self-esteem, eating disorders, alcoholism, etc. Heck, I even briefly dated a woman who turned out to be bulimic, alcoholic, and was also secretly a hooker Top that for a dating disaster story
The Rapport & Comfort phase is not essential with all women. After you have shown Alpha qualities, some women may want to have sex with you and only after do they ask you your name. For some other women - especially those with high self-esteem and those with deep feelings of guilt about sex and attraction - Rapport & Comfort can be very important. For other women, especially those with fears or shyness, Comfort can be extremely important. He I'm a banker. I've always wanted, since I was a little child to feel that wonderful sensation coming from taking care of exciting papers on my table and to feel the self-confidence coming from a sure job. Every morning birds flying outside my office's window give me a sense of contact with nature, when I look out.
Once the woman began to believe that it was possible for her to be free from the fleas, she had to face her beliefs about her own capabilities. A new 'outcome expectation' caused her to reevaluate her own 'self-efficacy expectation'. With coaching, the woman was able to learn a number of effective decision-making strategies, and became free once and for all of her obsession.
For two, often times if a man views a woman too much as the PRIZE and is willing to jump through a bazillion hoops for her in hopes of winning her over, she will begin to see him as having little value and self-worth. She will begin to think to herself, why does he feel the need to do all of these things for me Thoughts will begin racing through her mind such as, do l really want to be with a self-worthless needy desperate man Many women refer to what l am talking about as trying too hard .
When you make her look away she is reacting to you, thus, she is in YOUR reality. Having a strong gaze will convey to women that even the ugliest guy is the prize. When this is coupled with a warm confident smile, the effect it has on women is profound. I personally know a very ugly dude who has only mastered these two things. and women find him very attractive as a result. Some other basic stuff that will make even model men unattractive are things like slouched shoulders, hands in the pockets, you know. This conveys insecurity and lack of self worth. You gotta learn to be comfortable in your own skin, stand tall, and take up space. Anyway, in my book I go really in depth into this and talk about some really subtle things you can do with your body language that will make women see you as being good looking, not in the conventional sense, but in the sexy sense. This is the kind of good looking that you can control. It's the kind of good looking that matters. The conventional kind...
There are always people who claim that they habitually sit in the ankle lock position, or for that matter, any of the negative arm and leg clusters, because they feel comfortable. If you are one of these people, remember that any arm or leg position will feel comfortable when you have a defensive, negative or reserved attitude. Considering that a negative gesture can increase or prolong a negative attitude, and that other people interpret you as being defensive or negative, you would be well advised to practise using positive and open gestures to improve your self-confidence and relationships with others.
Most girls ARE insecure, especially about their looks because that's how guys determine the girl's worth most of the time. We all have things about our looks we don't like, and I can understand how this surgery may make poor Momma Shan a little self-conscious. Though I'm sure she was acting this way BEFORE the surgery, because it sounds like she very much gets her self-worth from how this guy treats her.
This is the secret dream of every woman because a woman does not want to take responsibility for her emotions. She remained impressed by his self-confidence and proceeded to go to the restaurant with him. He succeeded in seducing her by showing to her that he is a leader.
The interesting thing I find with this conversation is that many women who have suffered some form of sexual abuse or suffer from extremely low self-esteem validation issues fall into this category as well, so in a lot of ways, if you look at what is said here, it can be applied to all types of women.
There's another aspect to shyness which might be giving you some distress, and that's the flip side of shyness which is rage. Rage, or even just a chronic, simmering anger that interferes with your ability to relate normally to others, is the dark twin of rejection sensitivity. Both these disempowering emotions have their source in a tenancy to derive a major portion of your self-esteem from the judgement of others. Walking around all the time being psychologically vulnerable to what you perceive to be the silent appraisal of everyone around you will make you hypersensitive and fearful. That's where your shyness comes from. But after a while, you will come to hate what you fear. Your tormentors will eventually catch the focus of your hatred and it will express itself as a barely contained urge to fly into a rage when things don't immediately go your way. Check yourself for road rage for instance. Got
He is toast He did not pass the test. She tries to get some idea about his qualities of self-confidence by having him justify himself about the first banal thing coming on her mind. Every woman I have seduced or I know is able to invent a test like this in a second, without even having to put too much effort into it.
I realize that for many of you this notion will be a tough pill to swallow, especially for all you nerds whose wardrobe consists strictly of sneakers, jeans and t-shirts (some of which breathlessly proclaim the imperative need to rid the Federation of Romulans). Clothes speak to your socio-economic status nonetheless, and women read them like secret visual code for an insight into your character. You don't need to go suit-and-tie and fancy Rolodex watch, but you should at least be aware of some fashion trends (checkout Playboy or Maxim) and try not to look so totally fuckin' clueless all the time If you're an aggregate fashion slob and steadfastly reject anything that takes you away from your effortless comfort-wear, it only indicates to women that you're not a real player and that either you've given up all hope of attracting them, or that your self-image is so firmly cemented into a low status mind-set that you don't even realize how sad an image you are...
Purpose if you express your opinion, it means you have the courage to defend yourself. But if you get pissed off at her comments it means you have a low self-esteem. Important Some women with personality disturbances may do these tests in such an extreme way that they make your life impossible. In this case the only solution is to get rid of them as soon as possible. A woman with high self-esteem on the other hand tests her man, but her tests are rarely directed towards causing him big problems. She is most surely a woman with low self-esteem, who is not able to live a joyful life at high level.
I've taken this girl under my wing and I intend to help her regain her feet. I intend to do what I can to raise her Self-Esteem. Please wish her luck. I personally do not think its AFC for him to feel bad that this girl got hurt. But the posters in the thread are right, even if they are a bit crass in their advice. This is a natural chick response to recapture the relationship frame, by guilting the guy into helping her overcome her emotion. If this Acolyte dude persists in trying to help her get over him, she's gonna suck him back into her reality, and eventually hurt him the way she was hurt just to salvage some of her self-esteem. I don't think she'd do it consciously or maliciously, but I do think its very likely to go down that way. So he's damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't, as far as this girl is concerned.
The girl is a stand-up comedian, so I bust on her for being an attention whore. Things go good for a while until her friend comes back, but Swinggcat sweeps in and runs interference for me like a good wing should. I'm doing a VERY good job of undermining my target's self esteem, so One is with an older girl who's dressed like a 20 year old. My guess is she was at least in her mid 30s. Roadking opens her about her hat. She comes over and we start talking to us. This poor girl is massively insecure and is desperately looking for validation from men that she's still attractive (she was decent looking, but not all that hot). She starts dropping hints, like she hasn't made out with a guy in two years and shit. She also mentioned she's in therapy. She's looking for sympathy, but we just ridicule her for being so pathetic. This makes her qualify herself more. We probably should have validated her a bit, because doing so would have made her an easy pull, but we were too caught up in the cocky...
A great deal of success and power with women has nothing to do with how you act and feel about them, but a lot to do with how you act and feel about yourself. What we're really talking about here is SELF-RESPECT. No matter how gorgeous, or great in the sack or how otherwise wonderful she may be (and who else but such a goddess could possibly begin to deserve to be in YOUR company ) you must be willing to walk away from her if you can't deal with her from a position of self-respect. And self-respect, my friend, is mostly a matter of what you say no to. It's a boundary set by what is not permitted, tolerated or allowed. And while it may be negative from this semantic sense, in reality it is the most power and positive force you have going for you. When a woman senses it in you, she knows she's found something she's instinctively wanted since she realized she's female A MAN SHE COULD NEVER HOPE TO CONTROL.
It was gradual for me - a string of little successes that over time built up my self-confidence. But looking back, it didn't have to take so long. Like Major Mark says You can take the long route of incremental changes, or you can have an epiphany. In other words, just BE Sensually Powerful. If you truly want to invest in the relationship, you have no alternative but to do something drastic and do it right away. I know what you mean by walking on egg shells, it can paralyze you from taking action. But you need to gather up the self respect to overcome that and take the risk. It may be scary, but you know the alternative if you don't. Self respect is the required ingredient before anyone can have respect for you. Get that self respect. Self respect above all else. (This is different from self above all But currently that isn't what I'm doing. It seems like now I just play a fake role and tease low self esteem women into bed in order to validate themselves through me. This is not what...
The partial arm barrier is often seen at meetings where a person may be a stranger to the group or is lacking in self-confidence. Another popular version of a partial arm barrier is holding hands with oneself (Figure 74), a gesture commonly used by people who stand before a crowd to receive an award or give a speech. Desmond Morris says that this gesture allows a person to relive the emotional security that he experienced as a child when his parent held his hand under fearful circumstances.
You have a great deal of self-confidence and self-respect, and you have the ability to take control of your life and be successful at the goals you undertake. You are not a complainer. You do not give in. You do not give up. You do not compromise easily. In your life, you're willing to put your energies into a meaningful relationship. You have a very sensual and romantic nature, and can be a loving and caring mate. You came into this world with a strongly developed sense of independence and self-reliance, and I sense that you were able to stand alone at a very early age. I would judge that you were on your own at about sixteen or seventeen years old.
People have a tendency of being drawn to you. You don't lack self esteem, you don't lack self confidence. You are in control of your own destiny. It's an exciting period of time for you. And of course you will have the opportunity because again in my mind I would sense that at some point in time I can see you in uniform.
1) Once you've Cold-read her and you have paced her current reality, you begin to introduce the Self-Image. The Dancer self image. 2) You NOTICE all the things about her, her behavior, and her environment, that validate this self image and you Support this all by commenting on it, having her ratify it, describe it, reframe it etc. them like a child, and they will live up to your self image.
If Steve, who apparently has psychic ability and succeeds in demonstrations, has his results denied even when there is videotape evidence confirming what he did, or at least making fraud unlikely, this subjects him to repetition of earlier conflictual traumas and the recycling of the process i.e., the need for greater and more psychic feats to stabilize him and protect him from these onslaughts. Denial of the highly personal and often subjectively interpreted unreal reality might undermine his self-esteem and drive him further into telekinesis as a defense mechanism where the anxiety can be ameliorated by repetition and compulsion. He becomes the sorcerer's apprentice. In view of these problems it would be desirable to have sophisticated conjurers and gentlemen who, like W. E. Cox,' in addition to being a highly trained engineer is also a leading parapsychologist and expert conjurer. Consulting conjurers whose probity, ethics and claims about themselves have not been verified and have...
OK, back to this invisible barrier the AWARE state. You cant IGNORE it because fuck its a strong state, but what you CAN do is HIDE it. Ever have a headache and you just didn't bother telling anyone They didn't know what you felt, did they Well, if you HIDE the fact that your AWARE state is in full blown ON position, and pretend like you don't have this with them (NEG them in a fun way) they will see you as hard to get and different and they will try to make you like all the rest. They will in fact chase YOU That's it. That is the psychological switch that makes what I do work so well. Its is in fact the biggest secret going in picking up girls. I did it yesterday to a girl. She BEGGED for my . In my mind Im thinking, oh god I want her. Fuck, I approached HER. She had me BEFORE hello. But I made her work to get me. Only a man of quality would make that happen. In fact, I've been tricking this for so long that Im starting to think that maybe I AM a man of quality - this is a subject...
Commonly adopted by insecure bosses. Also prevalent among full-of-him-self types who have developed large but false egos in a futile attempt at having some self-esteem. NOSE IN THE AIR walk away forever if she insists on behaving badly. Your firm commitment to this act of self-respect cannot be faked. It must be genuine, heartfelt and be an integral part of your overall personality.
This spell restores the target's self-confidence (whether high or low) and reawakens the faith in an individual. Because of this, it reverses the effects of spells that affect the morale of an individual, such as emotion, bane, spiritual doubt and even harmless spells such as bless.
Your signature represents your public self-image, which means how you behave in public, how you act around other people, your social persona. When someone's signature is different that the rest of his or her writing, that would indicate that his public behavior is nothing like his private behavior what you see is not what you get. Signature slightly larger than writing--healthy self-confidence in public. Descending signature--whatever part of the signature drops represents depression, disappointment, disillusionment, or negative feelings associated with that part of the public self-image. If the last name drops, it could signal negative feelings with your father or other family figures. If it's the first name that drops, then you are depressed about yourself, feeling down on yourself. Descending signature with uphill writing-- writer generally concerned with public image, importance and stature. Downward signature indicates he doesn't want to reveal who he is. Depression,...
One thing you can say about Curtis Kam he doesn't lack self-confidence. Anybody who titles his videotape Palms of Steel is prepared to be the butt of some easy jokes. (I will not make any jokes, however I will mention that, coincidentally, Palms of Steel was also the title of Cox Dixon's see Marketplace, October 1999 first video, back in the days
As you read this book, you begin to realize the vast significance of the knowledge contained herein. Simply skimming through its pages with curiosity enables you to appreciate the techniques and allows you to apply it in order to empower yourselves and enrich your lives. Indeed this knowledge is priceless. Whether you accept the contained material as beneficial to your lives or you incorporate it with your human relation skills, what is important is that the techniques enhance your self-confidence and mental independence. Don't you agree
I will home in on three or maybe four spectators who I feel will respond well to my suggestions - I normally end up with a young mildly attractive female spectator with self-confidence. A personal preference, but I tend to end up with a young blonde woman with self-confidence. As I said, a matter of personal preference. However at the risk of sounding like a male chauvinistic pig, I actually feel my material works best with someone I find attractive. I tend to perform with more conviction and passion. This is something I have always done - however I find this tends to spur my performance on further.
In most cases, a person's grooming is an indication of their self esteem. By ing Psychic Detective, you should be able to learn a great deal about your ts, simply by observing them. A person who thinks highly of himself, will y reflect that confidence in his style of dress. In any cold reading, there are n signs that you must look for. Contrary to popular belief,it is more rtant to have many small hits, than one or two big ones. Obviously you can a lot about your client before the actual reading begins.In a sense, it's the as amentalist's pre-show work. Many novice readers stare into a client's eyes, looking for some sign of a hit. can accomplish the same thing by listening to the persons breathing pattern, the person is seated at my table, I make an excuse to get up and walk across room for a pen or something. As I pass behind the person, I notice several s. In a sense, it is a body scan. I begin by checking out the top of his head, he need a haircut badly Does he have a bald spot Is...
The girl is FAILING to meet your high expectations. Its not an insult, just a judgment call on your part. The better looking the girl, the more aggressive you must be with using negs. a 10 can get 3 negs up front, while an 8 only 1 or 2 over a longer time. You CAN go overboard if they think you are BETTER than them. you can drop the self-esteem right from under them (just like most 10s do to guys) and this isn't good. You have to get as close to the breaking point as you can without crossing the line Once you have gotten her RIGHT THERE, you can startappreciating things about her (NEVER LOOKS). There is a mutual RESPECT now. Something most guys never get from the girl. I believe a burp is an EXCELLENT neg. A neg holds two purposes 1. to lower the woman's self esteem. 2. to convey lack of interest (which does 1) Burp and don't apologize for it. when she says, you are a pig , you reply you think that well, my reputation precedes me You are actually NOT hitting on...
The Beloved This role plays out in the realm of emotional intimacy where lovers experience lust that starts in the heart. The woman and her partner feel lucky to have found each other. They are star crossed lovers, with a connection that feels rare, special, even spiritual. Her fantasy lover believes in her. He is not threatened by her intellect or her ambition. He's strong and self reliant. But he can't get enough of her, nor her of him. They are the only ones who can quench each other's mutual attraction. Women like the Beloved role because it allows them to blend intimacy and caring with sex. How Fantasies Help Us Fantasies help us by enhancing self esteem and attractiveness, increasing sexual interest and desire, facilitating orgasm, celebrating the present, satisfying curiosity, rehearsing future possibilities, releasing stress and tension, preserving a pleasant memory, and coping with past hurts.
Your first house is associated with affairs closest to the heart and to romance. Here, the influence of Venus, the guider of passion, is a very positive sign that you can succeed in love where many fail, although this is not to say you won't need some of your Virgo toughness, persistence and self-confidence from time to time.
You'll have many obstacles to overcome in your life, but the major obstacles are your self-doubt, or your lacking of self-assurance or lacking of self-confidence, because the older you get, the more confident you will become. At that point in time you basically put your cards on the table and don't short sell yourself. Stand up for yourself. You're self-esteem is getting better, your self-confidence is getting better, you don't lack in looks, you don't lack in style, and you have a knowledge of good grooming, and fashion.
You should see that the kind of skill that is involved here is similar to those you have been learning above. If you come on to do hypnotherapy then you will see that many problems involve something similar. You may be asked to improve someone's self-confidence, in which case you are aiming at getting them to accept a far more positive ideas about themselves than they come with or you may be asked to remove a fear of some thing, in which case you are aiming at getting them to accept, against all the evidence, that they are NOT afraid of that thing or you may be asked to stop them smoking in which case you usually have somehow to get acceptance of the proposition you will never smoke again . In these and many other cases it is not going to be enough simply to state the new proposition. You have to work systematically to reduce or overcome defences, and increase the feelings of confidence in you.
Although it is popularly said that money can't bl y happiness, many people still live their lives as if they believed the opposite. Being rich and successful has little to do with overall contentment. We are happiest when we feel in charge of our own lives, have high self-esteem. enjoy a close network of friends and family and believe we are doing well, rather than being incompetent or ineffective.
There are many ways to approach the elimination of a personal, deeply-rooted fear that's been interfering with your life desensitization, re-framing, anchoring, positive self-talk, or other forms of self-confidence training. But the best type of confidence is always a natural one that flows from simply knowing what the hell you're doing The military can take a bunch of pimple-faced kids fresh out of high school and turn them into competent, battle-ready soldiers in just a few short weeks. They come in fearful and uncertain and come out confident and full of pride by being forced into situations where they discover deep reservoirs of inner strength that they didn't know they possessed.