To capitalise when doing a pick-up would be to * and #close with a girl. To capitalise with a girl that you've already # or *closed would be to do a follow-up of calling her and then either by patterning or using any other seduction technique helping her to realise what you both have really wanted all along:)
And then doing it of course:) Apart from your usual pick-ups though, you might have gotten a girl interested in you in the midst of your everyday chores - maybe a co-worker, a neighbour, a fellow student, a girl at the cashier. To capitalise would mean NOT TO LET THAT WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY CLOSE! She is already preconditioned to liking you, so why let such a perfect opportunity slip? I assume of course, that you find her quite amiable as well:)
As for how to detect such an opportunity - you should know the signs of interest (see Reading body language for more details). She initiates contact, calls, emails or starts a conversation with you, smiles, asks questions etc, or reacts to your initiations more happily than before or more happily than your average indifferent girl would, giggles with her girlfriends when you pass her by, draws hearts in her college-block while sitting beside you (now you're not chasing high-school girls are you?:). See "Reading body language" for more signs.
But she won't stay interested forever. Any day (or night:) a new prospect might catch her attention and even without the threat of competition, her interest for you could wear off any moment, no matter what the reason. Even if not really having seduced her purposefully, if you detect her interest (and most probably she is doing her best to let you know:) and she is also quite to your liking, do end her suffering and extend a helping hand:)
Make sure that is not a supplicating AFC-ish hand though - that is one of the main reasons of the "I was interested in him/her only until he/she developed an interest for me, then it became boring" phenomenon. Stay on top of matters. A girl that has developed an interest in you independently in the course of a few months is no different from a girl that you just met and helped realise that you are the man of her dreams ten minutes from meeting her - they both need guidance or else they might get lost. But you need to begin right away - don't wait for some non-existent "right time" to approach her or ask her out (hopefully you're past any such thinking though:) or for her to make the first move (she WON'T, and if you don't make the first move she will eventually dismiss you as an ignorant chump or think you're not interested and in either case - she'll move on). Believe me, if you already noticed the signs of interest, SHE IS interested! And don't even try to dismiss them as random friendliness or your imagination, if you noticed them, they're for real:) Now once you know she is interested - capitalise on it!
Put a price on yourself
Ross Jeffries: "And one of the most true and powerful realities of human nature is: IF SOMETHING COMES AT VERY LITTLE COST, PEOPLE TEND TO THINK IT IS OF LITTLE VALUE! We believe that things that are difficult to possess are inherently of better quality and that things that are easy to posses are of little value or quality. In other words, absent knowing what something can do for them, people will make a judgement based on what they have to give up to get it. They confuse price with value. I certainly hope that you are smart enough to see the difference. Personally, I judge the worth of something based on what it will do for me. But practically speaking, here are some ways to do it in your behaviour in the field:
1. At the appropriate place and time, SHOW YOUR ANGER!! Guys who never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free!! Let the females in your life know that if they break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect that THEY ARE GOING TO PAY A PRICE!
2. Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable! There are actually two rules working here: one is that people value more what they have to work for, but also the rule is: if it's rare or becoming MORE scarce it's viewed as being more valuable.
Well, in any case, as I've said, it's a reality, so use it in the following ways:
A. A. Now and again, cancel dates.
B. B. Don't always return her phone calls promptly
C. C. On occasion, and especially in the beginning, GET OFF THE PHONE FIRST!! Don't have unlimited time or willingness to talk!!
That should get her viewing you as scarce and therefore a lot more valuable and therefore something... She's Willing To Pay A Hell Of A Lot More To Get!! Now the final, and perhaps the most important rule I can give you is: Let Women (and people in general) Know What Your Rules Are And What You Expect Of Them!!! Now, I didn't say whine or demand. I just said let them know with the attitude of: Hey, these are the rules. If you care to obey them, great. You'll receive GREAT value in return. If not, please get out of the way because plenty of people are lined up who WILL pay, and gladly so. Finally on this topic, you should take steps to totally eliminate from your life anyone in any capacity who will not pay your price, after you have clearly informed them what that price may be, and most especially if they have explicitly agreed to pay it. As I have long said, confidence works two ways: both in going for what you do want and moving away from what you don't. If you don't eliminate those who won't pay the price, then you will be undercutting your confidence when you want to move towards what you want, because your behaviour is not 100% congruent with your belief that you are a person of value who is deserving of the best."
Craig, Clifford's Seduction newsletter: "Make her put some work into hanging out with you in order for her to value you. Make her come and pick you up, make her spend some money on you, make her call and do you favors, etc. When she does things for you it will justify her own feelings for you and allow them to grow." See also:
Attract girls by being busy
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