The Pattern

1. Identify the grief representation. Think about someone or something you have lost, or a potential loss. Notice how you represent that person or tiling. You may experience having the loved one "there, but not really there." Or you may "see them, but only vaguely," in some insubstantial way. Identify the submodalities associated with the sense of loss. Common submodalilies include seeing the person as flat, transparent, distant, floating off the ground, unclear, etc. Grief usually involves an unfinished or unreal representation.

2. Identify your stuck grief representation. If you have experienced a grief in which you feel "stuck," notice your representations of this. How do you think about it? One man said, "I see her in a small, still picture. It looks very dark and depressing. I don't want to look at it." When someone inquired about this, the nurn said it represented "the last time I saw her—the day we broke up." Here the content controls the representations. If we recall bad times with a loved one, rather than good times, we will increase our sense of pain.

3. Identify your "special memory" representation. Think back to a time when you had some special memories associated with this person, when you experienced something of importance. Change any negative associations to positive associations. Identify the meanings and values you wish to keep. What did you especially appreciate and value?

4. Identify "finished grief' as a resource experience.

"Now think back to someone who no longer plays a part in your life and yet, when you recall this person, you feel good and enriched. Your thoughts provide you with a sense of their presence perhaps or of their value to you. Now notice how you think of that person."

Identify the modalities and submodalities that you use. Notice also the meanings that you give to them.

Hypnotism and Self Hypnosis v2

Hypnotism and Self Hypnosis v2

HYPNOTISM is by no means a new art. True, it has been developed into a science in comparatively recent years. But the principles of thought control have been used for thousands of years in India, ancient Egypt, among the Persians, Chinese and in many other ancient lands. Learn more within this guide.

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