Patterns For Incongruity

Sometimes one facet of ourselves will conflict with ¿mother facet. The classical work/play conflict serves as a good example. We want to get some work done. So we start to do it. Then a little voice, or thought, in our head pipes up and says, "Wouldn't you rather do something/«»?" loiter, we go outside to play or to take a walk, and a little nagging voice in our head pipes up again, "You ought to be inside t¿lking care of business." On such occasions we feel conflicted. This may take many forms. We may feel: indecisive, anxious, inwardly torn, stuck, procrastinating, etc. "I want to develop the skills of strength, firmness and assertiveness and I want to be loving and understanding so that I don't hurt people's feelings." "I want to passionately go after my dream, but 1 want to feel safe and secure financially and not risk anything."

In this chapter we offer numerous patterns for the resolution of such conflicts—strategies that enable us to become more integrated, whole, and at peace with ourselves.

(As an aside about the term "part(s)," we use it here simply to designate a facet within the whole system, and do not use the word in an elementalistic way. Nor do we actually or literally think of these "parts" as separate entities. This language simply maps out that different facets within the system c¿m create problems and distress for the system.)

#21 The Collapsing Anchors Pattern

Concept. A "state of consciousness" always involves both mind-and-body. When we experience two states, which radically differ (relaxing and tensing, feeling afraid and joyful), operating at the same time within us, they tend to interfere or interrupt each other. So what can we do about this? We can access and anchor each (with different anchors) and then fire them off simultaneously. Doing this forces our one neurology to deal with the messages and experiences of the two states so that they collapse into one response. We cannot think-and-feel calm and tense simultaneously. So, when we communicate to our nervous system to do both, this usually results in a "collapsing" of the anchors and states. Sometimes this results in confusion, disorientation, interruption, and even some slight amnesia.

This technology enables us to change a response that does not work very well. By using this Collapsing Anchors pattern, we pair a powerful negative anchor wTith a powerful positive one. WTien the collapse occurs, we will experience a loss of both responses. This technique works especially well for changing feelings and behaviors (programs) resulting from prior experiences (in other words, old, unuseful anchors). It also utilizes "unconscious" processes and therefore does not necessitate that we consciously need to understand the process. We use this pattern when we have two stales conflicting and sabotaging each other. Or, if we have an unresourceful state (an old anchored experience) that interferes with life, we can now let that response collapse into a more resourceful slate.

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Hypnosis Plain and Simple

Hypnosis Plain and Simple

These techniques will work for stage hypnosis or hypnotherapy, however, they are taught here for information purposes only. After reading this book you will have the knowledge and ability necessary to hypnotise people, but please do not practice hypnosis without first undergoing more intensive study.

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