Inventing And Reinventing Self

Patterns For Building Empowering Self-images

"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone."

Pascal

Some of the difficulties that we struggle with arise from, and concern, an abstraction—the paradigm we construct in our mind about ourselves:

• "What value or worth do I have as a human being?"

• "What confidences, skills, or abilities can I own as my own?"

• "Am I a loveable, attractive, and desirable person?"

These "self" questions raise inquiries about (1) identity, (2) self-esteem, (3) self-confidence, (4) self-loveability, etc. From the beginning of life, we embark on this journey of self-discovery as we differentiate ourselves from mother and father, family, teachers, and social groups. We do this to identify our values, beliefs, skills, etc.

Without such individual awareness, we will not feel or attain a sense of independence nor a sense of being personally response-able (responsible) for ourselves. And without that we will lack the autonomy to "know ourselves," and lack the integration that comes from centering ourselves in our values ¿md beliefs, fulfilling ourselves by finding our aptitudes and skills, and feeling secure with clear and definite boundaries.

1 he importance of these self constructs also shows up in our ability to move on to inter-dependence. Healthy relationships flow best from a person who has differentiated him or herself from others, who assumes proactive responsibility for self, and who can extend him or herself for the sake of others. Without such independence, people frequently move from dependence to co-dependence. The following patterns in NLP offer ways of addressing and resolving various "self" problems.

Hypnosis Plain and Simple

Hypnosis Plain and Simple

These techniques will work for stage hypnosis or hypnotherapy, however, they are taught here for information purposes only. After reading this book you will have the knowledge and ability necessary to hypnotise people, but please do not practice hypnosis without first undergoing more intensive study.

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