Calibration To Someones State

Concept. Calibration refers to using our sensory awareness to develop an intense focus that allows us to detect another's mental-emotional state, mood, experience, etc. Calibrating a machine refers to learning its unique responses ¿md gauging it. Calibrating to another human being entails learning to use sensory awareness (eyes, ears, skin, and other sensory receptors open ¿md inputting!), to recognize the unique facets of another's experiences as he or she processes information, goes in and out of states, etc.

Bandler and Grinder (1976) identified eye accessing cue patterns as one key set of responses to pay attention to. Eye accessing cues refer to a person's eye movements as he or she "thinks," processes information, "goes inside" to make nu^ining of words or referents, etc.

As a general pattern, the majority of people move their eyes up to visualize. They move their eyes laterally (side to side) when internally hearing ¿md t¿ilking in self-dialogue. And they move their eyes downward when accessing feelings. Further, given the existence of the right and left hemispheres, a normally right-handed person will lcx>k up ¿md to their left when remembering visually, laterally to their left when remembering auditorially or in words, and down and over to their left when remembering highly valued feelings. (For a diagmm of this, see Appendix A).

Similarly, a right-handed person will normally look up and to their right to create imagined pictures, laterally over to their right to construct sounds, music, and words, and down and right to access normal feelings and constructed feelings. Treat these accessing patterns as generalizations and always calibrate to the unique person with whom you communicate. Cerebrally reversed people will remember and construct experiences in an opposite way.

Eye accessing cues then provide us with some indication as to which representation system (RS) a person may access while thinking. We can also calibrate to other neurological signs such as breathing, muscle tone, physiology, skin color, etc. All of the early (1970 and 1980) NIP books provide a great deal of detailed information on calibration and pacing.

Calibration plays a crucial role in communication, teaching, and psychotherapy, because every person has his or her own unique way of experiencing and responding. One important area for calibration involves detecting when a person agrees or disagrees with us. Can you tell? Some people respond in obvious ways that leaves no doubt, others in less obvious ways. Some people show only the most minute changes to indicate "Yes, 1 am with you," or "No, I do not follow or agree." (For an exercise on calibration to "agree"/"disagree" see Appendix B).

#4 Checking The Ecology Of A Pattern

Concept. The human technology of rimning a "reality check" and an "ecology check" on our thoughts-emotions, experiences, states, beliefs and value hierarchy offers a pattern that operates at a higher logical level them content. This phrase "checking ecology" refers to "going above or beyond" (meta) our current experience (or someone else's) and asking about it.

• Does this state, belief, idea, feeling, etc., serve you well?

• Does it enhance your life or limit you in some way?

• Would you like to change this programmed way of thinking, feeling, behaving?

• Does this way of functioning empower you over the long run?

• Will this make you more, or less, effective?

Moving to a meta-position, or a meta-level of observation, and evaluating the overall effect of a belief, behavior, or response enables us to "evaluate our evaluations/' This gives us the technology to do a reality check on every pattern. And in so doing we have a way to keep our lives balanced within all of the contexts and systems in which we live.

ITuman consciousness operates as a mind-body system of interactive parts. All of the component pieces interact. So when we influence one component in the system, this usually has repercussions on the other components. Consequently, this pattern for checking ecology focuses on making sure that a proposed change or new behavior will operate productively and take into consideration all of our outcomes and values.

After all, un-ecological change will either not last or it might even create conflicts or more problems. So if we do not take into consideration the overall impact of changes, we can create change that may look really good on one level, but on another, invite disastrous effects.

Various Ecology Frames Exist In NLP

• Conflicting outcomes suggest that, when a person doesn't obtain a desired change, this occurs because he or she has good reasons for not achieving those changes. To achieve a goal without first taking care of conflicting outcomes may create harm. With this pattern we can check for ecology.

• Present state outcomes assume that every behavior/response has some useful function. Since this function will work in a unique way for each person, it becomes important to identify and preserve this function when making a change. So we ask, "What will I (or you) lose with this change, belief, or behavior?"

• Questionable presuppositions imply that sometimes change does not occur because it does not fit with either the person's external or internal reality. When we want to change something, we should also examine the presuppositions behind that desire. Frequently people ask for motivation to get more done, when what they really need may involve a better way to decide whether they should do the thing in the first place.

Ecology Checks to Make

• Incongruence. Do we (or others) respond congruently when thinking about making a change? Watch and listen for incon-gruent responses as the person describes or experiences the desired outcome. If he or she responds incongruently, then explore one of the following three questions:

a) Do we (or they) have one or more parts expressing conflicting outcomes?

b) Do we (or they) have a conflicting part that continues to play an active role when we inquire about the desired outcome?

c) Do we have sufficient sensory acuity to detect the incongruence?

• Forecast possible problems. "What problems could arise by the proposed change? Will it get the wanted outcome? What will the person lose by getting the behavior?" (Any gain always involves some loss, even though minor.)

• Deletions. As we gather information, check for anything not mentioned. Have we considered the internal responses, processing, and external behaviors of all other relevant people with respect to the proposed change?

Hypnosis Plain and Simple

Hypnosis Plain and Simple

These techniques will work for stage hypnosis or hypnotherapy, however, they are taught here for information purposes only. After reading this book you will have the knowledge and ability necessary to hypnotise people, but please do not practice hypnosis without first undergoing more intensive study.

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