The Aligned Self Pattern Using Logical Levels

As humans, we can become tom and out of alignment with our values and beliefs regarding our identity and our mission in the world. Who am 1 What is my mission in life We can also get so caught up in all the details of this or that task that we forget our overall purpose. The Aligned Self pattern addresses these problems. Using this pattern, we can rediscover and reclaim our values and beliefs about our identity and mission. We can then utilize it to integrate all of our experiences in...

Foreword

Why did you write this book she asked. And for whom he chimed in. For what purpose yet another asked. it began one day when Barbara and I caught a vision of collecting all of the central NLP patterns by which we can create resourcefulness and excellence in everyday life. We dreamed about collecting and putting them into one wonderful volume. Working in the context of managed care herself, Barbara conceived the idea of using the NLP patterns as a book of brief psychotherapy for therapists. This...

Introduction To NLP Magic

When we don't knowr how something works or how it operates and the principles that drive it, we live outside the secret of what seems like magic. Do you recall any moment wherein you suddenly experienced the shock of finding magic in your world 1 low does flipping this switch turn on the lights You've got to be kidding You mean by typing on this keyboard and pushing these sequences I can send e-mails around the globe You mean you put this food in the microwave and push these buttons and it will...

Crovn House Publishing The Users Manual For The Brain

The Complete Manual For Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner Certification Bob G. Bodenhamer, D.Min. & L. Michael Hall, Ph.D. Available for the very first time in bound-book format, this is the most comprehensive manual to date covering the NLP Practitioner course. A fully revised and updated edition, it contains the very latest developments in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, particularly with regard to the Meta-states model and the Mela-model of language. For all those embarking on...

The Pattern

Discover how the person stops him herself from speaking up assertively. Think of a time when you wanted to express yourself in an assertive way, but didn't feel that you could. As you think of that time, notice what pictures you make, where you see them, and how many you have. What else do you notice about those pictures What do you say to yourself Whose voice do you use and where do you locate that voice What feelings do you experience as you notice this, and where do you locate those feelings...

The Resolving Codependence Pattern

What we call co-dependent relationships result from becoming overly involved with others so that we assume responsibility for things that obviously lie outside our area of response. We think-and-feel responsible for how someone else thinks, feels, and or behaves. People who fall into the co-dependent pattern usually end up intruding into the responsibility circle of others, and fail to assume proper responsibility for themselves. They typically lack a good sense of connectedness to...

The Pre Grievitig Pattern

The strategy that enables us to effectively grieve, release, and move on with life also empowers us to access the value(s) of what we might have anticipated having lost in the future via our imagination, so that we don't have to torture ourselves 1. What will you probably lose in the future We humans live a fragile and fallible life we get sick, move through life stages, die, etc. Good ego strength enables us to look reality in the face without quivering, whining, throwing a tantrum,...

Recode your representations

Would you have any objection to developing a more resourceful way to think about the person you have lost so that you could feel good about him or her Does any part of you object to keeping the good feelings that you received from this other person and letting them enrich your life 6. Access a valued experience with the person. Think of one of the most special times you had with this person. See him or her as life-size, moving, and over to your left (or whatever driving submodalities the person...

The Grief Resolution Pattern

Sometimes when we lose someone or something very special to us, we get caught up in excessive and unnecessary grieving. Then we continue to grieve the loss of a loved one, a job, a childhood, etc., and feel sad, depressed, or hopeless, and become unable to get on with life. Perhaps we simply lack a good strategy for bringing closure to the loss, using it for growth, and moving on. The fact that people in other cultures can experience grief or loss in very different ways from our...

What Metalevel responses and states

What supporting beliefs and values With these questions we have just entered into the domain of strategies. In NLP, this refers to the structure of subjective experience. Building on the Cognitive-Behavioral work of Miller, Galanter, and Pribram (1960) in Plans And The Structure Of Behavior, Dilts, Bandler, Grinder, Cameron-Bandler and DeLozier (1980) took their TOTE model and enriched it with the representation systems. Using the flow chart of human consciousness as it moves through the...

Patterns For Building Empowering Action Plans

Regardless of how we feel, we always have some control over what zve do. When you know how lo do something, it looks so easy so magical to those who don't How do things work How does a piece of human subjectivity, e.g., motivation, decision-making, flirting, negotiating, parenting, dieting, fitness, learning, etc, work What does a person have to do first in mind-body What next, and next, and next What VAK representations does a person need to make up a given formula

Behavior

(-) Could do dishes, but won't (i) Would do dishes (-) Wouldn't do dishes (-) Would do dishes (-) Wouldn't do dishes & few dirty dishes & visiting stranger & cooking a meal Save time Neutral impression Excellence (of cooking) & unhygienic dishes I lygiene (e crisis in building Safety of persons Continue this process of doing or not doing the particular behaviors by adding more and more context that gets a person to do the behavior or disengage from it. With each step, identify the...

The Establishing Your Value Hierarchy Pattern

Our criteria refers to our standards of evaluation by which we make decisions about the importance of things, events, ideas, people, etc. Our values and criteria provide an organizing structure to our lives as well as a motivating force. As we add more and more values and criteria, the values themselves can begin to conflict with each other putting us at odds with ourselves. Also, we can over- or under-value some criteria. When this happens, internal conflict can also occur so that we...

The Pulling Apart Belief Synesthesia Pattern

If a person experiences a problematic state in several representational systems and in such a way that it seems to happen all at once (so the person hiis no sense of their strategy that creates the state) then we can consider this process functioning as a synesthesia pattern wherein two systems have become so linked together that a stimulus will seemingly fire them both off together. Robert Dilts (1990), in working with changing belief systems, described the synesthesia pattern of some...

The Context Refraining Pattern

Identify a behavior, emotion, belief, state, etc. and then ask context questions Where could 1 use this as a positive value When would I find it useful Once you have identified the context, then vividly imagine yourself using the behavior in the appropriate context. This describes the traditional NLP approach to context refraining. In addition to this, we can also lake a response and develop greater flexibility by shifting it from its usual frames and exploring its effects and results when we...

Patterns For Enhancing Neuro Sernantic Reality

The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery tluit human beings, by changing their inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. Having explored our parts, our identity, our mind-body states of consciousness and the language that drives them, we now move to the weird and wonderful, zany and neurotic world of meaning. As a semantic class of life (Korzybski) we live, emote, experience, rejoice, and suffer because of meanings. Yet meaning, as such, does...

Conclusion

And so we should. After all, as long as we live and function as fallible beings, we will experience fallibility, limitations, irrationality, etc. in our thinking and reasoning skills. Further, as long as we exist as somatic and emotional beings, we can expect our emotions, drives, and impulses to frequently rise up and get in the way of clear thinking, problem solving, and decision making. Yet this very awareness of our fallibility provides a tempering grace. It...

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Contextual thinking (Index thinking Inductive thinking) Inquire about the context of information and index it according to what, when, where, which, how, who, and why. Use the Meta-model challenges for unspecified nouns, verbs, relational terms, etc. 2. Both-and thinking Reality-test to determine if a situation truly functions in an either or way. If not, then process information in terms of a continuum. Inquire whether the two seemingly contradictory options actually exist as they represent...

Filing Away Memories 4s Part Of Ones Learning History

Sometimes the things we remember, and how we remember them, cause us problems torturing us with unpleasant sights and sounds, reminding us to feel bad, guilty, a sense of loss, etc. To de-energize such memories, make positive learnings from them and store them into the inner Library of references. Source Dr. Maralee Piatt. 1. Identify a memory. Think of or identify a traumatic experience that still 'bugs' you. 2. Identify the submodalities. Notice the sub-modalities of how you remember...

The Decision Making Pattern

Sometimes we struggle with indecisiveness as we attempt to make a decision. Yet because our experience of making a decision involves using our VAK modalities, producing better decisions will involve using the appropriate representational systems in the most efficient sequence. We generally find it difficult to feel a good choice and to make good decisions without comparing alternatives visually. With this pattern we can produce decisions of higher quality. Additionally, a decision...

Transforming Mistakes Into Learnings

(First Mistakes Pattern, see also 74 for a second one) Concept. As with various obsessive-compulsive patterns, sometimes we find ourselves repeatedly falling into the same old pattern again and again. Did we not learn anything Maybe we did not Sometimes we organize our thinking, emoting, and behaving to accomplish an outcome, and then just gel into a pattern of repeating it mindlessly. If the pattern even partially worked, we may subsequently simply have failed to update it. We don't...

The Swish Pattern

Since brains go places and take us to thoughts-and-feelings that may create problematic and limiting states, the Swish Pattern enables us to identify the cues that swish the brain to go wherever it goes. Detecting these then enables us to re-direct our brain so that it goes to somewhere more useful and productive. This pattern can change the way we feel and behave. Mind (consciousness) operates as our information processing mechanism with the languages of mind i. our representational...

B The Change Personal History Pattern Adaptation

The following adaptation of this pattern restates it using the Meta-states model. This was developed by Hall and Bodenhamer. 1. Identify the problem event. This will serve as the primary state. Think about a time and place in your history that still troubles you. IIow does it trouble you What problem does it create for you When you step into that memory, what emotion arises WTiat meanings Now step out of that problem state. 2. Take an observer's viewpoint of that experience. This represents a...

The Change Personal History Pattern

The past only exists in our mind. Externally, in the world out there, it no longer exists. It has passed. But we keep it inside us (in our mind and body) and call that past our memory. And yet our memories continually change. With every new understanding, development, learning, and experience we keep revising and updating our past memories. Since our memory only exists as a construction, Richard Bandler has noted that, It is never too late to have a happy childhood. Now what we...

The Reimprinting Pattern

Traumatic episodes and reactions can arise from traumatic experiences, negative input through stories, movies, and imaginings. As such, once we map out a trauma, the trauma can come to function as belief and identity imprints that lead to limiting beliefs. Imprints themselves can involve positive experiences as well as negative. Frequently, people abused as children will grow up and make unconscious choices that put them back into situations that seem to repeat the prototype trauma...

Info

Accept the enhancing belief that you transcend your powers, expressions of personality and your circumstances. 2. Dis-identify linguistically. Use the linguistic environment, I have but I am not to frame any and all of your powers and functions and circumstances as not you. 3. Dis-identify in trance. Access a relaxed and comfortable state and induce yourself into this transcendental state about your psychological and physiological powers, if I lost any of these...

Identifying And Pacing A Persons Meta Progratns

We all have, nd use, various sorting mechanisms (i.e., Meta-programs) at a meta-level for paying attention to and processing information. By simply learning to notice and match the person's Meta-programs in our own communications, we have an express road for getting on the same channel. Doing this will enable us to more effectively enter into their world and speak their language. This will undoubtedly increase understanding, empathy, md rapport. When we identify and pace Meta-programs...

State Elicitation

One of the most crucial NLP skills involves the ability to effectively evoke responses, experiences, memories, etc., from ourselves or another. By eliciting states, beliefs, KS, submodalities, resources, etc., from self or other, we can discover the form of an experience. This, in turn, allows us to replicate it (e.g., in terms of motivation, creativity, resilience, etc.). We do not have to observe blankly such resources, merely wishing that we could access them too. Via eliciting, wre...

State Interrupt

Sometimes we get into mental states and emotional states that do not serve us well at all. When that happens we need to break state or to interrupt the pattern and stop the functioning of the ongoing strategy. The process of breaking or interrupting states occurs every day because our states of mind-and-body do not stay the same. We experience multiple states and shift our patterns naturally. By developing awareness, this enables us to take charge of altering our states and those of...

The Content Reframing Pattern

Meaning arises in the following way. After birth we begin to move through the world. As we do, we first encounter empirical see-hear-feel things and events. We then represent them in our minds using our sensorv-based RS. But we don't leave it at that. We inevitably bring higher level abstractions (coded in language and higher-level symbols) to bear upon our representations. And when we do, we create a frame. This frame of reference then creates and defines our meanings. Thus begins...

Recognizing And Challenging Limiting Meta Programs

If the way we interact in a conversation seems problematic and unproductive, it may indicate mis-matched Meta-programs or some cognitive distortion. We find cognitive distortions in the twelve distinctions of the Meta-model. These show up as 'ill formedness in expression, structure, or meaning. Typically, these become especially unproductive when we over-use them. We have noted some of the Meta-model violations in the list of cognitive distortions (Figure 8.3). Because the...

Pattern Applications

Pattern Thinking As An Art And A Skill Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic. When it comes to our choices about what to think and how to think, we have a great many options. We referred to this in Chapter 8 with regard to thinking patterns. For instance, we can think inductively from many particulars and move up to some general principle. We can think deductively down from some global understanding as we move down to specific applications. We can even think, as...

The Chaining States Pattern

Our states of consciousness move, change, transform throughout a day. Yet sometimes going from one state to another represents too big an alteration to do all at once. Sometimes we have to more gradually veer from state to state. Every day we move from one state to another. Such state changes occur naturally. On any given day, we typically experience anywhere from eight to thirty discrete states of mind-and-body. The state joumaling method develops awareness of our state changes....

The Submodalities Reframing Pattern

Throughout numy of the patterns in this book we have already worked with the simplest form of reframing Representational Reframing. I his refers to changing or altering sensory-based facets within, and around, our VAK representations. When we change the quality or property of how we have something coded, we frequently alter its very frame of reference. For example, our frame of reference changes when we take one of our mental pictures and view it with a black border rather than seeing it as...

The Pattern eg The Phobia Cure

Create a dissociated image by imagining yourself sitting in a movie theater. On the screen in this mental theater, put a black-and-white picture of the younger you in the situation just before the traumatic event occurred. Frecze-frame, as a snap-shot, a scene prior to the movie. Now sit back to watch it, aware that you have taken a spectator's position to that younger you. Notice that you have stepped out of the picture, and have a position from outside....

The Belief Change Pattern

Beliefs develop over time via our experiences, as we entertain thoughts and representations, and then, at a meta-level, say Yes, to them. Once thoughts have transformed into beliefs, they function as our perceptions about things. These grown-up ideas then become habit and drop out of our awareness. Beliefs, as grown-up understandings, become durable maps by which we code meanings. Then, as perceptual filters, we see our beliefs everywhere. This describes how we endow beliefs with a...

The Agreement Frame Pattern

When two people conflict and lack agreement about something, they will continually butt heads. Often disagreements will arise because people look at given situations from different points of view, and they do so in categorical ways. To achieve an agreement frame, both must move to a higher logical level that encompasses all of the concerns, perceptions, and frames of reference. This pattern enables us to facilitate the process whereby people or groups in conflict reach quality...

The Making Peace With Your Parents Pattern

Sometimes our self image results from having adopted the same view of ourselves which we believe our parents held about us. If we believe a parent labeled us as stupid, we often keep that belief as part of our self image. This pattern helps to identify these dysfunctiomil introjects and to shift them into a resource. It operates from the pre-supposition that all behavior, physical and emotional, has a positive intention. When we can identify this intention, we c m use it to change our...

Patterns For Running Other Patterns Meta Patterns

Having examined the NLP Model in chapter 2, you have just about everything you need to use the NLP transformation patterns that you will find in this book, fust about, however, implies that you will need to add a couple more pieces before getting out your magic wand and using this book as a sourcebook of incantations for growth and change. On previous pages, we introduced the concept of logical levels. This leads to a crucial distinction in human experience between content and process. Further,...

Pal terns For Languaging Reality With Precision Clarity And Empowerment

How we talk about things, the language forms that wc use as we define, describe, and symbolize our experiences, powerfully affect how we experience life. They also crucially govern the quality of our experiences and our overall effectiveness. What explains why language plays such a powerful and pervasive role in our lives Why would our languaging have this kind of effect What explains this It occurs for several reasons, not the least of which involves the fact that, when we use language, we set...

Sports

NLP, in the domain of athletics and sports, plays a key role primarily in terms of states and state-management. For a number of years, I (MH) worked as a coach for a boys' gymnastics team and as a mental coach for a girls' competitive team. As I did so, I focused primarily on assisting the youngsters to learn about how to run their own brains so that they could put themselves into the best athletic state. This gave me the opportunity to help them identify resourceful and unresourceful states...

Emotional States

The Art Of Managing Neuro-Linguistic States Emotions sometimes we love them, sometimes we hate them Sometimes they put us in some highly resourceful and creative places sometimes they make life a living hell. Emotions, probably more than anything else, typically drive us to seek help. Life may be going to hell in a handbasket, but many (perhaps the majority of us) don't do anything about it until we feel the need Typically, we let things go, and keep trying the same solutions that don't work(...

The Pattern OfMeta Model 111

Concept, lad James (1987) developed a specific use for the Meta-model by packaging it as a way to do detailed questioning for a specific result. He initiated this use of the Meta-model by asking, What question can I ask which, by the very nature of the presuppositions in the question itself, will enable a person to make the greatest amount of change by accepting the presuppositions inherent in the question The following pattern starts with a problem and invites a person (1) to articulate the...

The Submodality Overlapping Pattern

Sometimes we have difficulty using a particular representational system (RS) to generate a particular resource. At such times, we may first need to start with our favorite RS, with which we have plenty of skill, and oi'erlap to the weaker system. In doing this we learn to develop a less favored RS. A public speaker or presenter can engage in submodality overlapping by simply using all of the RS, ind alternate between them. (Great literature that uses ill of the systems, and which...

The Visual Kinesthetic Dissociation Pattern Phobia Cure

We can process information in two central ways analytically and experienlially. When we think or read something experi-entially, we feel as if we have entered into the story, so to speak. To do that we representationallv nicotic it in such a way that we cue ourselves to experience it neuro-lingaistically. Conversely, when we think or read something analytically, we hold the material at arm's length, so to speak. We analyze it, think about it, and take a spectator's point of view...

Table Of Contents

Part One NLP The Model Of The Magic Design, Language, And Components 15 Part Two NLP Patterns Tlte Incantations For transformation And Growth Patterns Tor Running Other Patterns (Meta-Patterns) 33 Chapter 4 PARTS Apart Of The Whole Warring Parts Chapter 5 IDt'NTlTY Inventing & Re-inventing Self Pattern* Tor Building Empowering Self-Images 75 The Art Of Managing Neuro-Linguistic States 111 Patterns For Ijinguaging Reality With Precision, Clarity, And Empowerment 141 Sorting Patterns That...

The Responding To Criticism Pattern

We generally recognize the ability to receive criticism without feeling hurt or judged as an important skill and one well worth developing. I his pattern turns criticism into feedback and allows us to feel safe while another offers us a message. We may evaluate that message as unpleasant and undesired whether we find it true or untrue, accurate or inaccurate. This technology enables us to treat the products (words, tones, volumes, etc.) that come out of another's mind and mouth as...

The Receiving Wisdom From Your Inner Sage Pattern

The root idea in the term education describes a drawing out process, thereby suggesting internal resources, understandings, md wisdom within. This process assists drawing out such built-in wisdom or learned wisdoms which we sometimes forget to access, or learnings that we have made in other areas that we need to transfer over this pattern offers us that technology. Further, the concept of an Ancient Sage with whom we can converse and from whom we can gain knowledge provides a marvelous...

The Disidentification Pattern

Sometimes we over-identify with some facet of our life experiences our beliefs, body, gender, race, etc. Such over-identification can lead to conceptually positing one's self as dependent upon external qualities and actions, thereby constructing the self as a victim, dependent, etc. Assagioli (1965, 1973) provided a process for discovering one's higher self by creating an exercise in dis-identification (116) which begins by becoming aware of the fact, 'I have a body, but I am not my...

The New Behavior Generator Pattern

When we do not know how to do something, we need to learn a new pattern, model, or process that will, stcp-bv-step, enable us to discover the formula. Do we know how to take criticism well and to use it constructively Do we know how to motivate ourselves If we don't have a strategy for something, we won't be able to do it. Did you receive a program for resolving conflicts respectfully For gathering high quality information For speaking affirmatively and showing affection Well then, you...

The Aligning Perceptual Positions Pattern

Sometimes our ability to perceive things from out of our own eyes (first-person perception) and from out of the eyes of another person (second-person perception, the empathy perspective), and from an observer position (third-person perception), gets out of alignment. Structurally, each of these perceptual resources can operate as separate parts. These perceptual positions refer to the ways that we can look at the world. Conceptually, we can become stuck in one position or another. The...

The Timeline Pattern

Sometimes the problem we struggle with does not concern anything in today's reality, but something that occurred in the past. Thus the problem exists about how we keep our thoughts and feelings from the past in our current awareness. As we take cognizance of the wrorld via our nervous system with its five central portals, we input information. Next we process that information with our internal programs. We also go further as we create abstractions of those abstractions. Through words...

List Of NLP Centers4

The following is a list of NLP Centers in the USA for 1999. In the following P stands for Nl.P Practitioner Training, MP stands for Master Practitioner Training, T stands for NLP Trainer Training. As the field of NLP grows, more and more specialized trainings have developed and will continue to develop. Centers now offer courses in Photoreading, Core Transformation, Hypnosis, etc. Originally we had hoped to have devoted a good section to each training center until we discovered all of the...

The Spirit Of NLP Revised Edition

The Process, Meaning And Criteria For Mastering NLP L. Michael Hall, Ph.D. This fully revised edition of I7re Spirit Of NLP rep regents the con uf a brilliant fc chard Randier master raining. It also include significant contributions from othermaster trainers, including Eric Robbie, Wyatt Wuodsmali. lad lames, Giristina Hall and the late Will McDonald. Providing a deeper Luidersiandiiig of the irue genius uf the co-develup r of Veuin-Linguisiii Programming, it includes mastery of the neurology...

Design Language And Components

What do you need to know to work with your own Neuro-Linguistics or the Neuro-Linguistics of another person Briefly, NLP refers to modeling human excellence in order to create cutting edge human technology or magic that allows us to improve our quality of life. We model human excellence by finding, identifying, eliciting, and designing various patterns or programs that work within the mind-body neuro-linguistic nature of our experience. We have the following three components that make up our...

Michael Hall

Sometimes the problems that we struggle with, or that another person experiences, or that we experience with another person, occur in that invisible realm prior to, and meta to, thinking itself In other words, the arena of tension, conflict, or difference involves our very thinking patterns. I his raises several questions about this dimension of human experience, namely What controls and determines the way we think in the first place What governs our style and mode of thinking prior to the...

The Decision Destroyer Pattern

Sometimes, as we move through life, we make some poor decisions. Afterwards, those decisions become part of our mental map and begin to operate as a major psychological force in our life as a Meta-state . This pattern destroys such limiting, destructive, and unenhancing decisions. Decisions function as part of our mental maps that provide specific instructions about what to do. And, while a decision in one context and at one time may function very well for our benefit, as contexts and...

The Parts Negotiation Pattern

When one part or facet of a person enters into a conflict-causing relationship with another part in such a way that it initiates self-interrupting and self-sabotaging processes, we create an internal fight between these two parts. Frequently, people will live for years or even a lifetime with such internal conflict raging within. This, of course, wastes tremendous amounts of psychic energy, sabotages effectiveness, and creates incongruence The pattern of parts negotiation provides the...

S The Advanced Visual Squash Pattern

Individuals frequently develop unconscious parts or facets of themselves which disagree with each other. When parts become incongruent to each other and to the rest of our system, we become incongruent. To re-integrate these parts we will first want to identify the positive intent of each part. Originally developed by Bandler and Grinder, this advanced form comes from Dr Bobby Bodenhamer. You can do this also by using a spatial anchor on the floor for each part, observer, and...