One method to stay on track as you develop your ability to be confident at will is to buy a calendar and make it your confidence practice calendar. You can take an ordinary calendar and schedule which confidence exercises you do on which particular days. You furthermore can set up confidence milestones that you expect to achieve on your journey toward unlimited confidence.
One day you could practice speaking confidently. The next day, the day's exercise could be walking confidently. The following day's exercise could be gesturing confidently. Go through this book and pick out your favorite exercises and put them down on your calendar. Create the calendar to match your personality best. You will know what will work best for you.
You will get more of what you reinforce. Therefore, I recommend that you praise yourself when you find yourself behaving confidently. Although you might think it's a bit corny (I know I did when I first did it), I found that the following method really works as a method of reinforcement. When I found myself behaving in a way that I wanted, I gave myself a small round of applause, a pat on the back, and a self-hug. Many people deny themselves their due credit even when they perform extraordinarily. Give yourself credit by consciously reinforcing your positive behavior.
After all, who is the only person you are guaranteed to be with for 24 hours every day for the rest of your life? You are of course. Treat yourself well and discover how your unconscious mind will respond to you. As you treat your self better and better, you'll discover that you're better able to access parts of your memory that you hadn't before, you are able to visualize better, and that your negative internal dialogue will disappear.
Many people do not treat themselves very well. They have a constant, nagging internal dialogue making their lives miserable. They come from a frame of mind of scarcity and that people are out to get them. People are causes in their lives, not effects. Dis-empowered people let things happen to them. Empowered people make things happen in their lives. That means that when a person takes complete responsibility over their entire lives, they begin to become very empowered. They realize they always have a choice and act out of conscious choice instead of blaming or playing the victim role.
When you are empowered and act out of choice, celebrate your accomplishments by rewarding yourself. Reward yourself in the same way that you'd reward your best friend for his/her accomplishment. After all, who better to have as a best friend than yourself? Remind yourself that you are wonderful. Sometimes people don't celebrate their accomplishments. They stall or wait for others to do it. Maybe they want permission to celebrate what they did. I'm now giving my permission for you to celebrate all of your successes.
You can have it all. Just like Napoleon Hill said, "If you can conceive it, you can believe it, then you can achieve it". And that's an absolute truth.
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