People who have unstoppable confidence make decisions decisively and rapidly, and once a decision is made, they are committed to it. They rarely change their minds. They never waver because they know what they want. The main thing is, knowing what you want beforehand, so when an opportunity presents itself to you or a problem presents itself to you, you can go inside yourself and find out, "Hey, is this congruent with what you want? Is this congruent with what you are after? Is this congruent with your personal policies? Is this congruent with your integrity?" Asking yourself all of these questions allows you to size up the decision you are making, so you can come back with a decisive, confident answer.
When someone commits themselves to their destiny, they go for it full tilt and consequently get their goals. The master motivational speaker, Anthony, Robbins says, "success is cutting off all of your options for failure." As you realize what specifically you want out of life and decide that you're willing to pay the price to achieve it, commit yourself to cutting off all options of anything less than achieving your goal.
Life is what you make it so experience life on your own terms. Define the terms of your life and operate from them. Ask yourself, "What are my rules for this game of life? What will I accept for myself? What is unacceptable to me?" Life will pay any price you ask of it. The more you ask of life, the more you are willing to give, the more you'll get back in return. By the same token, the less you ask, the less you'll get. People with unstoppable confidence ask for all of their dreams to come true. They do this by setting their goals, getting the tools to make them happen, then they take committed, massive, immediate, repeated action to make them real. Others ask for only some of their dreams to come true and thus set fewer goals, take less action in a less-committed manner and consequently get fewer results. This choice is entirely up to you and how you choose to live your life.
Let me go through the step process of confident decision-making. Prior to undertaking anything, have your goals set up, know what you want; have your personal policies, your integrity, know who you are, what you stand for, and what is acceptable and unacceptable. This will help you in the confident decision-making process.
So before anything else, you need to take an inventory of yourself. Get to know yourself, who you are, what you stand for, where you are going, and how you are going to get there. When you know this, everything else becomes very simple.
Now, if you have a question, a problem or an opportunity that comes to you, you need to size up the situation from all angles in order to be a confident decision maker. Look at it from your position. Look at it from the other side.
Look at the position and how it will affect you throughout time. If you were to say yes to this decision and move forward with it, how would this impact your life? Imagine yourself a few months down the road, one year down the road, five years down the road, after having said yes to this decision. How is your life? Explore how the future may be if you said no. Now consider, how might your life be if you say no to this decision? A few weeks from now, a few months from now, a few years from now? And once you get that picture clearly in mind, decide if that's congruent with your goals. Let your goals be your road map.
Without any goals, people are like ships without rudders. They float along in the sea. So often I meet people and I say, "What do you want out of life? What are you looking to do?" And they say, "I want to be happy" or "I just want success" or "I just want to be rich". And I say, "Great, what does happiness specifically mean to you? What does success specifically mean to you? What does a lot of money specifically mean to you?" Too often, I get glazed over looks as people don't know the answer to that question.
People need to get very clear, be very open, and honest with themselves about what these words mean for them. For some people being rich means making $100,000 a year. For others it might mean making five million dollars a year. And for others, it could be something different altogether. Everyone is an individual and unique. They need to define what they want and what specifically the meaning is of the following words; happiness, security, freedom, love, success, riches. After they have defined what these words mean, they will know how close they are to getting those. And in defining these words, they should think about what they will see, hear, feel, experience, think, and believe when they have those. That way one knows with absolute certainty if they are experiencing it. Are you happy? You know if you have happiness defined. You will know you are successful when events around you fit the definition that you have decided upon. Confident people march to the beat of their own drummers. They don't care what society thinks. They don't care about other people's projecting their expectations or their limits onto them. They are going after what they want, doing what they believe.
You will immediately know how to make a decision once you know what your ultimate goals and directions are in life. Simply knowing where you truly want to be in life simplifies your task so much because this knowledge becomes the yardstick by which you measure progress, and the compass you use to navigate to your success.
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