My Shy Self The College Years

Now, as you've read about my ultra-shyness in high school, you may be thinking that it couldn't get any worse. It did. Since I was so good at being shy, I really outdid myself in college. The more the years passed the more I found my inability to be confident to be a glaring weakness. My roommates meant well when they would try to get me to drink to loosen up. Their hearts were in the right spot. God bless them They knew I was stiff and very shy. Instead of hanging out with them and drinking...

Beyond Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is an excellent technique and revolutionary for its time. The problem is that if someone sits around all day thinking positively without really solving their problems, their lives are really not better off, are they People can think positively and when we empower them with tools on how to get their goals and solve their problems, this is much more effective. Positive thinking was good for its time, and we have Dr. Norman Vincent Peale to thank for popularizing this idea. He...

My Journey To Unstoppable Confidence My Shy Self The High School Years

I had always been shy as a child and even as a young adult. I had a small, select group of close friends my entire life yet never found enough confidence to introduce myself to a stranger. This led to serious difficulties for me in dating and relating with women. My friends and I excelled in school and that was our main focus yet in the back of my mind I knew I was missing out on something else when all the other people in high school were going out on dates and hanging around one another. I...

Mirror Those Affirmations

Typically when people do affirmations they repeat them endlessly to themselves in hopes that they work. This has a degree of effectiveness yet can be made much more effective with some modifications to how the affirmations are delivered. This technique has been modified to supercharge the efficacy of the affirmations. Instead of using statements beginning with I', you will use statements beginning with You. Statements with You are more powerful because it's your conscious mind telling You your...

Hypersensitivity As A Cause Of Shyness

Sometimes being overly sensitive in terms of feelings can lead to shyness. People can become afraid of doing anything for fear of offending someone, hurting someone else's feelings, or getting in trouble. Being supersensitive may be useful in some contexts such as when you want to really empathize with a person yet if a person is supersensitive all the time then that is detrimental. I know this because I used to be hypersensitive. I never spoke up, never stepped outside my comfort zone, and...

Instant Rapport Through Mirroring

When two or more people are in rapport with one another, an interesting thing occurs. Their body physiology (i.e., their body language) becomes similar and they begin to match one another. How can we use this to our benefit We can consciously match someone else's body language in order to increase our perceived similarity to them. While increasing the similarity to them, you simultaneously lessen the differences between yourself and them. This technique is called matching and mirroring because...