The hated 'buddyville' dilemma! This problem was a real curse for me. I've already had a lot to say about it in previous chapters... drawing upon my frustration and anger as my muse, which often finds vent in this writing project! I finally came to the conclusion that there exists a series of critical steps and behaviors that you must always be aware of -- along with the proper timing and sequence to perform these steps in -- if you're going to have any hope of turning a girl onto you sexually.
Look, we all know there are jokers roaming around out there who have absolute balls of brass when it comes to approaching women, but still only manage to get laid maybe one out of every 20 tries or so. That's because a lot of them don't know exactly what steps have to come next in the game, and how important those steps are to the overall scheme of a well thought out seduction. Again, because the fear of rejection seems so insurmountable to guys like you and me, we think that if we can just get around this life-murdering fear the rest of it will be a cakewalk. Not a chance. Once you've fought mightily to get over your rejection fear, you're really in no better shape than the guy I just described who never had this kind of massive rejection fear stopping him in the first place, but still gets nowhere with most of the women he moves on!
Sheesh! What a pain in the ass this seduction stuff is! Once we get over our fear of attempting it, now we've got to actually demonstrate some skill and knowledge to "close the sale" and maneuver her into a sexual relationship! I guess it's really no different than learning to fly an airplane or something - once we get over our fear of flying so that we can climb into the cockpit, now we've got to actually learn what the hell all those switches and controls do! Becoming a pilot requires a certain degree courage to even attempt at first, and then the proper training and acquisition of actual skills to complete the job afterwards. Welcome to flight school 101.
If I could sum up the gist of what is most important to understand from the last chapter, it would simply be this: women are far more interested in how you make them feel than what you look like. Of course, this assumes that you aren't completely off the scale in terms of physical or hygienic grotesqueness. But if you're a fairly decent looking guy who's clued in on how to take care of himself and doesn't flat out reek, then you should begin to see your shyness and reluctance to approach women as having a diminishing basis in reality. Here's an important thing to understand: that, for women, it's all about emotions and feelings, and especially how a particular man makes them feel about herself and about her life. In a seduction all your efforts will be focused on creating the intense feelings and emotional states within her that she craves from a
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