Without Embarrassment

A surprise kiss or some other lame bullshit. There will be no second date She will not go out with you again. I have learned this the hard way several times and couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. Being too respectful and nice (puke ) is just as bad (maybe even worse now that I think of it) as being an offensive jerk. At least the jerks of the world seem to be getting laid here and there. Us asshole nice guys are locked in strokers' prison doing life sentences Once again the operative...

My maddening failure was that I always ended up being friends instead of lovers

The hated 'buddyville' dilemma This problem was a real curse for me. I've already had a lot to say about it in previous chapters drawing upon my frustration and anger as my muse, which often finds vent in this writing project I finally came to the conclusion that there exists a series of critical steps and behaviors that you must always be aware of -- along with the proper timing and sequence to perform these steps in -- if you're going to have any hope of turning a girl onto you sexually....

Your Ability to Deliver on Her Four Primary Emotional Needs

Did you ever notice how most couples seem to be getting into little tifts or downright nasty arguments much of the time You yourself, being socially withdrawn much of your life, might not have too much personal experience with this sort of thing -- but unless you're totally oblivious it's hard not to see how much of it is going on all around you. I'm sure you've got lots of stories about how each one of your friends who's in a relationship or is married takes his turn at being pissed off at his...

Tmtgh I Am

How Toxic Shame Keeps You Locked Inside a Low Status Straitjacket Little Bobby is 2 years old. He likes to run around the house naked -- laughing and screaming with joy as his parents chase him from room to room with the camcorder. They tell him to quit showing everybody that silly poo-poo bottom , but they think it's hysterical and do nothing to stop it. Why should they Dashing around butt naked is appropriate, healthy behavior for a 2 year old who's just discovered the most delightful means...

The Nice Guy Blues Explained

Ust friends Again Aaaarrghhh That's the most hated of all things to hear from any woman that you'd like to bang. When you finally get up the balls to show how you really feel about her she just wants to be your buddy. This seems to be the bane of many intelligent, but passive, men. In their eagerness to demonstrate how well they can connect with women and understand them, they end up solving the mystery that forms the basis of the dynamic sexual tension between men and women. As a result, all...

For Shagging

You realize, of course, that the complete picture of seduction goes beyond just communicating your intentions as a dominant male on the prowl. At different stages along the way, you will slowly reveal more and more things about yourself and your lifestyle that give her important clues as to what kind of man you are. One of those clues concerns the style in which you live and the look and feel of your apartment or home. Women will consider the way in which you live substantially into the...

The Way Women Want Men to

Tf you're the kind of guy who's been getting rejected by women all his life, you may've come to the conclusion that most or even all of them absolutely delight in shutting guys down. They relish the opportunity to bait some nerd into asking them out for a date so they can humiliate him, preferably in public, by viciously crushing his ego flat as a pancake with as much malice as they can possibly summon. They'll teach you to dare try and ask them out for a date. They're going to make you pay for...

High Status powerful Males vs Low Status weak Males

Jockeying for pecking order among males is something that goes on constantly in all species of animal on Earth. It takes place in every human culture too, probably dating back to the very beginnings of Time itself. Men compete against each other every day and in all manner of ways, some subtle and others painfully obvious. From the high stakes power plays that define the bitterness and intrigues of office (or governmental) politics, to deciding who goes first at a 4-way stop sign, the struggle...

Friends Instead of Lovers

Just think how much more nervous and apprehensive you are when going to pick a woman up for a date, as opposed to just getting together with her and hanging out as a pal. Can you relate to this image Would you rather play it safe and stay away from the man-woman sexual stuff -- too much trouble too much frustration and horniness Just be friends for now, then I can put the moves on her later if I want to. Yeah I can take my time and not have to deal with any of the uncertainty and jealousy and...

On rejection sensitivity

There's another aspect to shyness which might be giving you some distress, and that's the flip side of shyness which is rage. Rage, or even just a chronic, simmering anger that interferes with your ability to relate normally to others, is the dark twin of rejection sensitivity. Both these disempowering emotions have their source in a tenancy to derive a major portion of your self-esteem from the judgement of others. Walking around all the time being psychologically vulnerable to what you...

Putting it All Together

Okay, let's see if I can summarize everything into another one of my famous 'cheat sheets'. Don't act weird. Sounds obvious but it's not. Single people tend to have a disturbing strangeness about them that tags them as curiosities to be avoided. I know you've met women that you can tell almost at a glance are lifetime virgins. In a man, single guy weirdness signals that he is a neophyte when it comes to matters sexual and emotional. It suggests that you're a low status male who's been roundly...

Instant Rapport

You've worked on your inner game, decided to accept the process of flirting for the lighthearted fun that it is, and not get all bend out of shape worrying about the high pressure notion of I must score at all costs You're a calm, high status dude now. Next you spotted a prospect, got caught looking, and held on for dear life. A snap of the anchor band brings up a tide of powerful emotions to keep the negative ones boxed up in a corner of your mind where they can...

Getting Her Addicted to

Here's a neat little trick that I discovered in my travels along the perverted yellow brick road. Once you finally break the 'sex barrier' with a woman, all sorts of opportunities to form a powerful psycho-sexual bond between the two of you begin to present themselves. Getting a woman addicted to you is a seriously complex issue that could probably fill out an entire book on its own since it has to do with the creation of feelings of trust and shared experience and all that other good stuff....

The Big Picture

Your Ability to Deliver on Her Four Primary Emotional Needs 204 Make sure that Your Four Primary Emotional Needs are being met by Her 217 The Right One, defined 225 Getting Her Addicted to You 230 Yeah Baybee Your Perfect Pad for Shagging 235 You Evil Bastard, I should have never shown you any of this 240 A) Cayman Magic -- (A fictional pick-up story with annotations) 247 B) The 7 Mega-Rules of Men - Women Relations 282 C) The Dominant Male Test 284 D) Scoring the Dominant Male Test &...

Its All Subconscious With

M any of the impulses and 'prime directives' for finding a suitable mating partner are hardwired deep within the primitive parts of the human brain. Some women can just knock you right out the moment you first set eyes on them, while others barely move the needle on your peter meter. Why Because an unconscious image exists within you of what your ideal female looks like. When you happen to stumble across someone who matches this internal portrait walking down the street or standing in line at...

The Seven Perfect Attributes in Men that Women Would Love to

The great fear that you have when it comes to approaching women undoubtedly grows from the fact that you have a gnawing uncertainty of exactly what to say and how to act in a way that a great looking woman would find charming, clever and intriguing, as opposed to stupid, laughable and humiliating. Right The need to avoid these negative emotions overrides whatever horniness that you have. Simply put, ignorance begets fear. Well then get set to burn these next seven ideas into your brain forever....

Unattractive Sensitive to Rejection

Worst situation possible Hermits Club Charter Member The first three categorizes I've described here probably don't include you, otherwise you wouldn't be bothering to read this book. So let's go through them quickly Category 1 is the best situation to be in -- a guy who's physically attractive to women and insensitive to what little rejection he might pick up along the way. What can you say about a guy like this, except that he's got it too fuckin' easy His experience with women is pretty much...

Romance is a Trance

Once you believe that you've picked up on her thinking style, your follow-up move is to make a conscious effort to use language that supports it -giving her the perception that you too take in the world through a similar experience of your physical senses just like she does. This confers a powerful sense of connection between the two of you on a subliminal or unconscious level, making such feelings profoundly hypnotic because it slips beneath the judgmental radar of the conscious Mind. For...

How Does Your Blood Smell

Say what My blood are we hoping to score with Elvira Mistress of the Dark now or what No, but get this there's a curious aspect to the man-woman seduction and mating dance that plays itself out on a strictly biochemical level. This is going to sound wacky but I wanted to make you aware of it before we move on to the meat and potatoes of my system just to show you that not every factor in seduction is controllable no matter how good you get with women. It's been documented with hard medical...

Your Secretly Shamed Affection Needs

The need to secure affection from others is a basic, natural, normal human need that begins to form within most of us at a very early age, probably as a continuation of infanthood. The key issue here is normal and natural. The human animal has an index of developmental needs that seek to find expression and validation as we undertake the maturation process, a process that begins in early childhood and winds a twisted path all the way through young adulthood. The major players in this journey...

Make Sure that Your Four Primary Emotional Needs are Being Met by

What's good for the goose ought to be good for the gander two can play at this game it takes two to tango catch my drift here Just because you are the seducer in this 'formula of love' and therefore must be the one to modify his behavior in order to please the woman, it doesn't mean that you have to completely ignore your own needs. Remember, the dominant male likes what he sees and goes after it, but he doesn't grovel and compromise himself in order to get it at all costs. That's the domain of...

Classy Courage

One of the best ways to elicit a positive response from any woman is to have a presentation about yourself that appears charismatic. Your prospects for acceptance go way up and, conversely, your chances of rejection go way down if you can aspire to come across with charisma and a stylish flair. What is charisma Webster's defines it as a. the power or quality of winning the devotion of large numbers of people b. Great personal magnetism charm. Now, for our purposes we won't consider the...

My Sad and Pathetic Story How Women Piss on Low Status

I'm 5'6, unathletic, and have a nasty lisp to my voice. Women find me unattractive and unacceptable as a potential mate. They laugh at guys like me This is basically how I thought about myself for years -- from adolescence to adulthood -- in the deepest core of my being. I'm talking about my unconscious mind, where fundamental statements such as these which describe your sense of identity or at least, certain aspects of it are held un-critically as the truth, and are then used by your conscious...

Step 3 Show her that youre a Player

Okay, now that you've executed this inner game to perfection kind of like practicing a golf swing in your mind before actually taking your shot you're ready to make first contact. Remember, first meaningful contact between men and women is always non-verbal. Guys go wrong by sneaking up to a woman uninvited and blurting out their carefully rehearsed pick-up line straight out of left field. The woman gets scared, jumps back in wide-eyed terror, and flames you with a cold glare. Now you become...