When I was in college, and struggling just to get a date, let alone get laid right and left, I knew one guy who ALWAYS had great looking women around him. He seemed to know practically every girl on campus, and they'd always come up to him and give him hugs and kisses. No, he was not a coke dealer or a pimp. Of all things, he was an evangelist.
Now, I'm certainly not advocating Jesus Freakery as the way to get your weenie wet. But you might take a few lessons from this guy, Chris. I'd watch him go to work on women who were absolute strangers and within a few minutes, they'd be laughing and punching him playfully, sometimes giving him hugs. If it weren't for the Lord, Chris would have been the big stud on campus.
And what was his secret, a secret I hope YOU use to launch you on the way to getting laid like a bandit? His affinity and warmth made women feel ADORED. He didn't come on all hot and heavy, like a hungry wolf on the prowl. He came on with all the friendliness and fun at his disposal - as if these strange women were long lost friends that he dearly loved.
And they bought it! Even the chickiest woman, who is very uptight about being a sex object, wants to feel loved and special. And just by the warmth in the tone of his voice and his smile he made these girls feel as if they WERE long lost friends.
Look at it this way: Even the nastiest person finds it hard to react fearfully or angrily to someone who makes them feel loved and appreciated.
I suggest you make this AS IF principle part of your bag of tricks. The next time you approach a woman who is making you burst out of your pants with lust, try putting aside the lust and turning on the warmth.
Conveying warmth and affinity isn't so tough - just think of how you look and sound when you see a niece or nephew, or even a pet that delights you. No, I am not suggesting baby talk as a way of scoring babes. I'm trying to give you an example of where it's natural for you to behave the way I'd like you to try behaving with women.
The important principle to apply here is that THE MEANING OF YOUR COMMUNICATION IS THE RESPONSE IT GETS. If you use a tone of voice or a facial expression that makes women fearful or suspicious, then no matter how clever your words are, the message you convey to her is that she should be afraid and suspicious of you.
If voice tone and physiology (and again I don't mean your appearance per se, but rather your posture and facial expressions) are so crucial in how women react to you, then what is the key to producing voice tone and physiology? Your belief and expectation about your outcome.
If you believe you are going to get rejected then you are either going to convey fear, and make her fearful or else you are going to try to beat her to the punch and act so obnoxious that she rejects you right off, so you don't have to wait too long in suspense for your negative prediction to come true. You just want to get it over with quickly so you actually produce the humiliation that you believe you cannot avoid.
By contrast, if you act as if you truly were someone who everyone liked and received warmly, then that warmth is what your tone and physiology will convey, and that's the response you will get, nine times out of ten. I'm not saying you'll get laid with everyone you approach, but seldom will you have a nasty experience either. And any woman who doesn't respond positively to warmth and affinity is seriously sick and should be avoided at all costs anyway.
PRACTICE EXERCISE: OK, I know this one is going to SEEM a little silly, but it's going to help you get laid like CRAZY, so just do it!
Remember the words to the pledge of allegiance. In case you don't here they are: (You may stand and put your hand over your heart if you so choose.)
I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one nation, under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
Practice, out loud, saying these words with all the warmth and friendliness you can muster.
Practice saying them out loud as if you thought they were the funniest thing in the world and you might crack up laughing at any moment.
OK, so you feel a bit silly practicing (and if someone should catch you they may think you've joined the John Birch Society) and it seems weird. But just remember -
IT ISN'T SO MUCH WHAT YOU SAY TO A WOMAN, BUT YOUR TONE OF VOICE WHEN YOU SAY IT!!!!
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