I like to watch TV, go to movies, read books, play on my computer, and even partake in the occasional MMORPG.
But when I'm not waxing philosophical about who could kick who's ass -- Kirk or Han Solo -- I'm out trying to pick up chicks.
The thing is, what I do is cold approaches. Cold Approaches are basically approaches where you approach a woman you do not know in the hopes of attracting her so you can lay her.
Without a doubt, this is probably the hardest form of Pick-Up there is. Why?
Well, for one thing, the Fear Factor on cold approaches is the highest. They don't know you, you don't know them, and the risk of getting rejected is high. This is one of the reasons many people cannot do cold approaches. It is just much too scary.
But the reason I do them is because I currently have no better option available to me. If I don't cold approach a girl, I won't meet any.
But a funny thing happens if you cold approach enough girls. You become friends with them!
As strange as it sounds, it is true. Though the average guy is not looking to make friends with the girls he approaches, odds are if they like you enough to sleep with you, you will eventually end up becoming friends. And even if they don't want to sleep with you, the least they are willing to become is a friend because they enjoy your company enough.
This is a funny little side effect to meeting women, and because of it, my eyes were opened to something. It's a dirty little secret, yet one that is so obvious I am surprised that I did not see it before.
Are you ready?
Okay, here it is:
Most people get laid from their social circles. This is a fact, my friends.
Sure, cold approaching can lead to the occasional one night stand, or even a same day lay that blossoms into a relationship. But very rarely does this happen. In fact, it happens so rarely, that I really rate my approach success based on the quality of numbers I get.
I say quality because anyone can get a number. But a number from a girl who actually gives you her REAL number and will actually RETURN your phone call is so much more important than the quantity of numbers one receives.
But of all the guys I hang around with who get laid, the ones who do so with the most frequency are those with large social circles that include women in them.
For instance, I have a friend who is going to college. He belongs to a number of groups: Martial Arts, Role Playing, Historical Reenactment, etc. And he gets laid.
He gets laid a LOT.
Probably more than most guys, and DEFINITELY more than me. The funny thing is, this guy DOES NOT APPROACH! In fact, he's deathly afraid of it!
When I noticed this, I took a good look at the guys I know who are getting laid frequently, and sure enough, there was the proof. They were all getting laid from either girls they already knew, or met through friends, family, or some type of hobby.
This is an incredible revelation for me because social circles have always been the primary dipping source for men I knew were getting laid.
Back in my formative days, I'd only hang out with my guy friends, who weren't getting laid either. I'd do solitary activities, like play on the computer, and take part in social activities that were typically heavily attended by males.
In short, my social circle did not include women, and because of that, I did not get laid.
As my awareness of women grew, I realized that cultivating a social circle conducive to interacting with women ON A DAILY BASIS is absolutely IMPARATIVE to getting laid regularly.
Most of the men I have met who are not getting laid or who are struggling to get laid are the ones who's social circles are almost completely empty of women, and the women who do encompass their social circles do not interact with them regularly.
A scary truth about guys not getting laid is that they are not comfortable talking to women, and this can show in your interactions with them.
I am willing to bet that most guys who cannot talk to or approach women do not have many female friends in their social circles. And if they do, the girls are friends they would like to have sex with. They do not know what it is like to truly be friends with a girl they do not want to sex up, and because of that, there is always a feeling of comfortableness just below the surface of their interaction with girls, which the girls can pick up on and which completely throws off the guy's state.
So the trick is to expand your social circle so it becomes something that is conducive to getting you laid.
The fact is, a female friend is the most powerful tool you have in your seduction arsenal, especially if she is attractive.
Approaching other women with another woman who can social proof you and talk you up is probably the single most invaluable trick there is to meeting them. When you have a female with you who is actively working to HELP you get laid, chances are it will happen, and more quickly than if you were acting on your own.
Not only that, but the girl will also have friends that she will try to hook you up with if you demonstrate you're cool enough to be her friend. Through these girls, you will find your comfort around women increase, along with you success rate.
So how do you do this? Well, the first step is to befriend a girl.
How is this done?
Most guys have had a lot of experience with the "Let's Just Be Friends" area of life. But this is not the same thing. The fact is, with the "Let's Just Be Friends" stigma, you are not really the girl's friend because you still want to have sex with her and she knows it.
The best way I know how to expand your social circle is to befriend other GUYS who are good with women. Not the type of guys who use women and throw them away, but the type of guys who are fun and always surrounded by girls. You befriend this guy, and he will introduce you to the girls who surround them.
You can meet these guys anywhere, and it's much easier to approach and make friends with men because there is no sexual tension there. You guys can connect on basic male subjects such as sports, women, business, etc. If nothing else, you may make a new valuable male friend out of the deal.
You can meet these guys anywhere you go, be it a club, bar, museum, concert, etc. It doesn't matter. You will meet them doing stuff you like to do. Most guys will go for the girls right away, but if you befriend the guy who is IN with the girls, he will help you to get them.
Once you're in with the guys, its time to move onto the girls. Have him introduce you. Tell the girls how good of a friend he is. Show them that you're a cool guy. Become their friends. The cooler the guy you befriend, the hotter the women he knows. The hotter the women he knows, the better quality of women they will introduce you to.
The next step will take a bit of willpower on your part, but you want to actually BEFRIEND the girl with the knowledge that you are not going to sleep with her. No matter how hot she is, you must take her out of the "I wanna BONE!" category. This is crucial because if you go after her for the full monty (sex), you could screw up the friendship.
But once she's your friend, you can practice on her. Talk to her, call her up and bullshit, go out with her, let her feel safe and comfortable around you.
Once she's your buddy, get her to introduce you to her friends. Those are the ones you game on. This is because you'll be at an advantage with them. Not only will you have a girl who is their friend hyping you up, but you'll also be social proofed by the guy you befriended, who has also probably met the girl you're being introduced to. Right there is instant social proof that you're cool enough to hang with them. Then its time to game the girl, which should be easier than cold approaching because the meeting is inherent.
But when it comes to cold approaching, the women you befriend become even more powerful. This is where the real fun can happen.
You can use your female friends to approach other groups of people.
You can introduce her to the men while she does the same for you with the women. Not only that, its natural social proof when you're with a girl, and you feel more comfortable talking to women, which makes you more attractive.
In fact, this is so powerful that I know men who's entire game is based on Social Circles.
A woman you use to help you get laid is often referred to as a "Pivot" or a "Pawn." They are used as pieces on a chessboard to break down defenses and open doorways to score checkmate.
One guy I know is SO effective with the girls in his social circle, that if there is a guy trying to get with a female friend of his, he will actually get the guy to pull him other women before he social proofs the guy with his friend.
This is another great tactic, especially if you're lazy about approaching.
In this situation, not only are his pivots pulling other girls for him, but the guys after his pivots are as well. And in the end, all you're getting is a bigger social circle which will make it easier to get laid.
It is very easy to befriend women, because when you make it clear you do not want to have sex with them, they can feel safe with you and allow you to "mess up" around them in practicing your dating skills. Not only that, but being around women will teach you SO MUCH about how to pick them up, your game will rapidly increase.
If you want to get good at picking-up women, surround yourself by five beautiful women who are good at getting guys.
This is important, because all the best ladies men just act like really beautiful women. They steal the chick frame that gets guys all into them and turn it around on the girls. The more you hang out with women, the more you will begin to incorporate this mindset into your seduction repertoire.
I recommend you go out there and start getting to know more girls in a non-sexual way. They will help you a great deal in adding some notches to your belt. I hope to expand my social circle massively in the coming future, so that I may also reap the benefits of having many lady friends.
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