Your appearance is part of your Body Language. Not the appearance you're born with, however, but the way you shape how you look. It is through how you rearrange your appearance that you transmit your sexuality to others.
When you see a beautiful woman with an average or below-average guy, and you ask her why she finds him attractive, she may say something along the lines of "I don't know. It's just something about him that he has... like an energy or an aura."
Actually, it's nothing of the sort. In part, it's how a man dresses that communicates certain things to a woman: the type of shirt you wear, the pants you put on, the jackets and ties you don, your hairstyle, the way you shape your facial hair if you have any, the length of your sideburns, your tan, the whiteness of your teeth - all these factors contribute to the immediate image people get of you when they first see you. But even more important than these things is how you stand and how you walk.
When you move, move with grace. I'm not talking about a ballerina type of grace here, but rather an "arrogant" sort of grace that will garner attention. In fact, you can directly translate arrogant grace into "macho swagger." Think of the way Russell Crow, Bruce Willis, Brad Pitt, and Mel Gibson walk, and you'll get an idea of what this is. Its standing straight, shoulders slightly back (not hunched over), walking and moving with an easy confidence that's sure to get people's attention.
Keep your hands out of your pockets. When you put hands in your pockets, you look like you have something to hide. By the same token, don't cross your arms. Crossed arms make you look guarded and stand-offish.
If you're looking for something to do with your hands, lock your thumbs in your belt above your pants pockets, with your fingers pointing down to your crotch. If you lean up against a wall or a bar, thrust your hips forward slightly (not too much, remember to be subtle!). This is a stance meant to communicate male sexuality.
You may think this is funny, me giving you advice witch is basically the equivalent of "Point to your dick!!!!" But look at the psychology behind it.
How many times have you seen this type of pose on TV or in the movies? Not by the hero, of course, but by the sexy bad boys that women so often swoon for? When the bad boys do it, it signals to everyone who sees them "I'm a sexual threat. I am a dangerous man for a woman to want to be with. I am a man and I make no apologies for what I want!"
On a smaller scale, this is exactly what you are communicating as well. But in the bigger picture, your goal should be to cultivate an aura of sexuality that will fascinate the available women around you.
Don't be afraid to take up space. Especially if you're in a crowded area. You can communicate this in how you stand and how you sit. Stand straight up, shoulders back, legs shoulder-length apart, and hold your ground. Don't let others crowd you. Too often, men will shrink their personal bubble in crowded areas so as not to touch others. Don't do this. Make physical contact with those around you and take up space. This communicates a type of dominance to others, when they see others giving you the space you want.
When you sit, lounge. Be comfortable. Sling your arm around the back of the chair. Expose your crotch. Lean back. Show you're at home with where you are. (Note: This doesn't mean you have to sit like this constantly. Just communicate that you're comfortable).
Part of doing this is learning how to read a woman's body language as well as projecting yours. Learn to size up the women around you and figure out who's interested. Look at the way they stand or sit. Make your choice and catch her eye. If she's interested, you'll see her respond to you in some fashion. If she doesn't, you might want to consider moving on to a different target.
Be aware of how her body responds to you while you're talking. Are her arms clasped defensively? Open your arms up in response. Is her posture stiff and rigid? Relax your body as you talk to her. Is her face drawn tight? Smile at her and relax your look.
In other words: Answer her body signals with opposite and complimentary signals of your own.
This works because you are essentially brushing aside her bad body language and intruding with your own. Unconsciously, other people want to open up with you, you just need to make them feel comfortable enough to do so. When you respond with the opposite body language, you communicate to the woman you're with that you're relaxed and open, and that it's safe for her to do the same.
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