This is a small, but important thing to be aware of when approaching women, and this is the concept of.
Tonality refers to the volume, pitch, and tone of your voice. Many men overlook this when they are talking to people because they are more focused on what they are going to say rather than how they are saying it. But if you're not careful, your tonality can actually drive people away from you, no matter how engaging your material is.
If you don't believe this, just try imagining fingernails scratching against a chalkboard.
Did you cringe? If not, then think of a time when that actually happened. Did you cringe then?
Seriously, the sound something makes can be the difference between an enjoyable experience and a horrible one. So it is important to be aware of the sound of your voice as you are talking to women you want to meet.
This is important for a few reasons:
1. Being aware of the sound of your voice helps you to control it.
2. When you can control your voice, you can influence how others react to you.
3. When you can influence how others react to you, you have an easier time getting them to do what you want!
The last time you got angry, did you yell and scream? How did people respond to you? Most of the time when someone gets angry, they become more forceful in their tone of speech, and that instills fear in people which will overwhelm any objections they may have to your requests and get them to do what you want.
By the same token, if you're being playful and funny, and maybe talking excitedly and rapidly, people may be hanging on your every word!
So imagine what it's like when you're able to control your tonality in speak in a warm, friendly voice? Or better yet, a deep, sexy voice.
Can you imagine the possibilities?
If you still don't believe the power of tonality, think of how women use it on men. In fact, men are SUCKERS for tonality! All a woman has to do is purr in your ear a bit and you may become putty in her hands (if that's the case, I recommend popping some Viagra!).
Most women know how to use their tonality to get men to do what they want. Well, the same is true for guys. The only thing is, most guys don't know how to use their tonality effectively!
So what's the most effective way to use your tonality?
The first thing you need to be conscious of is the tone of your voice, or how much it resonates.
Women respond well to men with deep tonality, not only because the pitch is pleasing to their ears, but because a deep tone represents confidence.
Now some of you out there might be like me and aren't blessed with a "deep voice." So I'm going to make the distinction here between a "deep voice" and a "deep tonality."
First, I want you to remember this: You can be just as sexy with a deep tonality as you can with a deep voice!
The difference between the two is that no matter what your voice sounds like, if you can make it resonate, it will have the same effect as a sexy deep voice!
Even if your voice is so high it sounds like your testicles have been squeezed by a vice for the past 20 years, if you can make your voice resonate, you can use it to your advantage.
In order to achieve this type of tonality, you must speak from your diaphragm.
A test to see if you are speaking from your diaphragm is to place your hand flat on your chest, and focus speaking from that area. If you do it right, you can actually feel your chest vibrate as the words emanate from there.
Another thing to be aware of is volume.
In a way, you must learn to be LOUD.
If you have great things to talk about, but a girl cannot hear you, he's going to get frustrated and bored and eventually be distracted by something that does not require so much effort on their part to pay attention to.
I have a good friend who is a great guy and has lots and lots of fantastic stories to tell. But he often has a hard time meeting women because he speaks so softly that they have a hard time hearing him. And guess what happens when you can't hear someone?
You get bored!
If a woman can't hear you, you're creating WORK for her. It takes effort to hear someone who speaks too quietly. And remember, people by nature are lazy. If a woman can't hear what you're saying, her attention is going to wander off elsewhere.
And that means you've lost her!
So don't be afraid to be loud when approaching someone. High volume can convey a sense of excitement and confidence, and when you combine it with good tonality, you are projecting all the right signals to portray yourself as a fun, outgoing, and engaging person.
Even if you're being TOO loud, you're at least courting attention. Best to be too loud than to never be heard.
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