If you've ever watched the Nature Channel or Animal Planet on TV, you've undoubtedly seen one of those "Animals in the Wild" shows that documents how said animals live, sleep, eat, and of course, mate.
If you watch these shows, you'll almost always get to a segment where the animal's "mating ritual" takes center stage. The narrator, in all the gravitas his voice can muster, will undoubtedly explain what exactly the animal is doing and why it is designed to attract its mate.
Take the peacock, for example. Here you have a lovely bird with a beautiful, multicolored tail which serves no real purpose in the animal's survival (after all, those beautiful colors tend to attract predators, and peacocks can't run very fast with all those heavy feathers). But they do serve as a courtship device to attract females so the peacock can mate. When you see a peacock spread its feathers, you know he's on the prowl!
By the same token, us humans have mating rituals that we go through to attract the opposite sex as well. Like the peacock, we too like to flaunt our tail feathers from time to time, but our equivalent of that stunning plumage is our intelligence, language, social status, and all sorts of other human characteristics that separate us from the animals.
When we combine these aspects of ourselves and manifest them for the purpose of attracting a woman, we're doing what is commonly known as "flirting."
Like the animals on all those nature shows, flirting is a natural instinct that humans abide by to get an initial attraction with the opposite sex. Flirting is a complex set of unwritten laws and etiquette designed to express interest in someone and get them to express interest back.
Many times, we flirt instinctively, without conscious knowledge of what we're really doing. The only time we really realize we're flirting is when it's not working, or something goes wrong - be it by flirting with the wrong person, or doing so at an inappropriate time and place.
For instance, you ever meet a girl who was cute, fun, bubbly, and seemed to really enjoy your company? She'd laugh at your jokes, smile at you all the time, and do all sorts of activities with you? Like any guy, you'd think to yourself "Wow! This girl really likes me! She's totally into me!" But then when you go to kiss her or express your interest, she acts surprised that you mistook your "friendship" with her as signs she was "interested" with you.
You're not alone in this. Men in particular have a hard time interpreting the subtle cues that women give off. Often times, we can mistake a woman's friendliness as being flirtatious, and a woman's flirting as her being just friendly (or you might not notice her flirting at all!).
Because of this, pretty much every man on the planet has had a few embarrassing moments in regards to "misreading" the situation.
Now, if flirting is supposed to be natural, then why is it so hard to do? Why do we misread the situations so often and have to endure these embarrassing moments?
The short answer to this is: society.
Somewhere along the way, in your life, restrictions were imposed on your natural instincts that hinder your ability to either flirt, read the signs of others flirting with you, or both. Maybe your parent's scolded you when you were younger, or you got some bad advice growing up. Whatever it was, some wires got crossed that made flirting harder for you than nature intended.
With that in mind, this section is meant to go in depth into the Art of Flirting in an attempt to help fix whatever damage you've sustained when it comes to the natural human mating ritual.
Now, as I muster the gravitas in my voice, let us begin.
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