Procrastinators are people who put off doing what they have agreed to do or what they know they should do. If you're a procrastinator, you're always looking to avoid doing something, be it pay bills, clean your house, call someone up on the phone, etc.

Procrastinators are bingers of comfort, which is actually just a form of laziness. They sleep too much, read too much, watch TV too much, and never really find that comfort they're looking for. They feel overwhelmed by everything they feel they have to do, and self pity and resentment wash over them like tidal waves. With a procrastinator, you will always hear the phrase:

"I'll do it tomorrow."

Guess what? They most likely won't!

A procrastinator's non-compliance with reasonable expectations annoys others, who will inevitably criticize them for their inaction. In response, the typical procrastinator will either blame themselves, thus creating feelings of guilt and shame, or angrily blame their critics, calling them unreasonable, bossy, and unkind. Through this, they are able to regenerate their familiar "Poor me" self-pity.

Procrastinators have a "forgetful" habit, which is a pattern based on deep-seated, self-centered, immature feelings of self pity and resentment about feeling like they have to do what others want. But procrastinators also rebel against the rules they set for themselves! This is because procrastinators feel victimized by authority - be it others or themselves. They put off what they feel the have to do in order to gain a false feeling of power.

So how do we fix this?

Procrastinators avoid responsibility, so the worst thing a procrastinator can do is try to add more responsibility to their lives. Things like setting goals and getting organized will not help a procrastinator. They will not stick to rigid timetables that spell out hour-by-hour what they must do.

Instead of trying to make your life more stringent, try to loosen up and give yourself a set of permissions that will help you rather than hinder you.

• Stop avoiding discipline, from yourself and others, and accept it maturely

• Stop criticizing yourself

• Try to accept criticism from others calmly and maturely.

• Stop blaming and complaining.

• Stop trying to make things perfect, and get them finished in a timely fashion

• Stop making excuses to avoid what you must do

• Avoid wasting time with things you don't have to do

• Stop making excuses for yourself, for you or anyone

• Do anything you choose to do, and do so with a positive attitude

• Be honest and own up if you procrastinate. No lies, no excuses.

Learn these permissions and take them to heart. Remember that promises must be kept, not broken, and that acting with self-control is a mark of self-respect and respect for others.

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