Here are some examples of Intruders:
"Hey guys." "Yo, real quick." "Yo, what's up?"
"Hey, I gotta tell you something."
"Hey, I've only got a few seconds." "Yo, I know you're busy, but." "Stop! This'll only take a second." "Hi guys, I can only stay a minute."
Once you know what Intruders to use, you can enter anyone's personal bubble and open them successfully.
As with anything else in life, timing is everything.
When it comes to approaching beautiful women, this couldn't be more true.
As a general rule of thumb, the quicker you can approach someone after first noticing them, the better.
Some would say to give yourself about three seconds after spotting a target to choose your Opener and approach. This is a pretty good guideline to follow, but the reality is, you can approach someone at any time you please.
The reason you want to approach so quickly is that the longer you take to approach, the more opportunity you have to talk yourself out of Opening your target, and the stronger the temptation to stay in your comfort zone becomes.
Here is probably the most important concept to grasp in terms of timing: That of hesitation.
There's an old saying that goes: "He who hesitates. masturbatesV
Well, in terms of picking-up women, that could not be more true. Hesitation is the one thing that will destroy more opportunities with women than any other single factor you can think of!
It's in that dreary period of hesitation where everything that could possibly go wrong rushes through our brains.
• What if she already has a boyfriend?
• Will she notice the zit on my forehead?
During that time of hesitation where you're your brain is contemplating every single possible thing that could go wrong, a few things are happening:
1. You are focusing on a negative outcome
2. You are rehearsing failure
3. You are allowing fear, doubt, and uncertainty to take control
4. You are giving outside factors time to distract or take your target away from you
When it comes to timing, hesitation is your worst enemy. Remember that phrase "Opportunity only knocks once?"
Eventually, you're going to want to train yourself to approach automatically, so that it becomes instinctual to do so as soon as you see your target.
Never use hesitation as an excuse NOT to approach. When you chicken out because you think "too much time has passed," you're just rationalizing your desire to stay in your safe little comfort zone.
Resist doing this with all your strength!
We'll discuss how to train yourself to overcome the evils of hesitation later on in this book. But until then, I want you to remember this important concept:
Like Yoda told Luke, "Do, or Do Not. There is no Try." When you FORCE yourself to act, when you PUSH THROUGH your hesitation, you can achieve amazing results.
Don't worry about everything that could possibly go wrong. Instead, ACT, and deal with obstacles as they arrive.
Simply acting on impulse will improve your timing, and dramatically improve your results!
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