To call this an "Insult" Opener is a bit of a misnomer.
Perhaps a better name for it would be an "Undermining" Opener, because the purpose of this Opener is to say something nice to someone to Open them up, but then undermine it right away to make the person you're Opening insecure to the point where they feel the need to either correct you or prove themselves to you.
The reason for doing this may be because your target has too high a perceived social value or is being obnoxious or bitchy.
This can be a tricky type of Opener to pull off, because you do run the risk of offending your target. But sometimes people need to be humbled before they are able to relate to you on a more personal level, and the Insult Opener is the best way to do it.
Probably the best trait of an Insult Opener is that it forces your target to engage you.
This type of Opener is meant to either create or prey on insecurities that are already present within your target, and get them to try and explain to you why these insecurities exist. Once this happens, the target is effectively engaging YOU.
This is the real power of an Insult Opener, because anytime your target feels the need to prove something to you, it ups your perceived social value in their eyes on a subconscious level.
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