How To Make Friends

Now that you got the basics and the details, it's time to make some friends! I go into detail on how to meet people in the "Art Of Approaching" chapter. But to expand a bit further, once you meet someone, get their contact information (phone number or email) and then invite them to do something with you.

Tell them you'll call them or email them about the details later, but at least offer the olive branch. Then, based on the first get together, you can see if you want to continue to meet and hang out later.

Remember to never let someone go without getting their contact information. And don't be afraid to ask for their home phone or cell phone if they give you a business card. Getting someone's cell phone number is always preferable to any other information they give you, because nowadays, it's the best way to get in touch with people.

Don't waste time contacting them or getting together either. Call them up the next day for a meet. Chat with them on the phone for a bit. Meet for dinner a few times. Friendships can develop really quickly, you don't need to wait three days or something like that waiting for them to form. Literally, some friendships take a matter of seconds to form a bond. Don't put off calling someone because you want to "give it time."

Also, don't do something that's going to put your prospective friend out of his or her way. For instance, if you want to meet up, don't pick a place that's far for them to get to. If that means you have to drive a bit further to meet them, do it. You want to make it convenient for others, at least in the beginning. Then later you can meet someplace closer to you. Also, don't ask them to do a big event, like a trip to Europe for your first outing. Going out for drinks or food will suffice.

And remember to be patient. Building up a good, healthy social life takes time. Sometimes people can't meet up right away. That's cool. Keep in touch and keep offering the invite. Do the work to stay in touch and coordinate outings. Don't be afraid to be bored or lonely while you're building up this network.

Once you've made friends, ask them to introduce you to other friends. Usually, they'll have talked about other friends of theirs, and all you have to do is say "Oh, I'd like to meet him/her!" And boom, it'll be arranged. Meeting people through people you're already friends with is the best way to make new friends.

Just remember that your developing social life will be unpredictable (after all, you never know who you're going to meet!). You might end up with a crew of friends who all know each other. You might end up with several individual friends. The guy you get along with today might not work out in a few weeks. The person you only sort of like may turn out to be cooler than you thought. Go with the flow and see what happens.

Don't expect your friends to be perfect. They'll all have quirks that you may not like. Just learn to accept them. Part of being friends with someone is the fact that you accept them for who they are, faults and all. And just because you have a fight or argument doesn't mean you still can't be friends. Disagreeing with people is part of life. Just learn to agree to disagree and not let bad blood come between you.

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