How To Flirt

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Now it's time to get into the nitty gritty of flirting.

The first thing to keep in mind when you're flirting with a woman isn't that you're there to show off or impress her. Often, when you hear guys talk about how much money they make, what kind of car they drive, or how powerful they are at work, these guys are mistaking flirting for showing off.

The goal of flirting is not to impress a woman. It is to express your interest in her in a subtle and playful way. It is designed, by nature, to be a way for a male and a female to discover whether or not the two are attracted to each other.

Walking up to a girl and saying "You're hot, want to bone?" is not flirting. It's being forward. This blunt approach bypasses the build-up of the mating ritual and is libel to turn a girl off.

But walking up to a woman, smiling at her, making strong eye contact, getting her to laugh, maybe winking at her. this is all stuff that is meant to communicate interest to her.

However, the purpose of your flirting is not ultimately to express your interest in a woman. Its purpose is to find out whether or not she's going to return that interest! If she does, that's a sign to proceed. If she doesn't, that's a sign you should either walk away, or change tactics.

When it comes to flirting for a man, there are only two things that need to be communicated:

1. Male Sexuality

2. Confidence

These two traits, when combined, are incredibly attractive to women. And when you communicate these traits both non-verbally and indirectly with your language, you are a powerful force to recon with in the flirting realm.

Remember: Women are empathetic and emotion. They respond to strong emotion and feelings.

This means if you effectively send out your male sexuality and confidence when flirting, women WILL respond to it!

When it comes to communicating these traits, the non-verbal element is always more important than the verbal aspect. Too many guys think that just by chatting up a girl, they will be able to successfully get her attracted.


Actions speak louder than words, fellas. Women will pick up on what you do way more than what you say. Your body language, voice tonality, and gestures will communicate all you need without you actually having to say anything.

For instance, let's say you see a beautiful woman and you walk up to her and say "Hello." Now, depending on how you walk up to her, and how you say hello, you can communicate anything from "You are the sexiest woman alive and I want to make mad, passionate love to you," to "I'm just being polite and I'm not interested in you at all."

We covered the nonverbal aspects of flirting in great detail in the "Art of Body Language" section of this book, and the verbal aspects were hit upon in the "Art of Approaching" section. Go back and re-read those chapters if you are unclear on them.

For now, we're going to focus on a few guidelines for flirting.

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