I have tested it out in bars, clubs, and other venues, and it works extremely well pretty much anywhere. The Opener is as follows:
"Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two dogs, a Pug dog, and a Beagle dog. She wants to name them after an 80's pop duo, but I can't for the life of me think of a good one. Do you guys have any ideas?"
The game here is to keep presenting options to the group, and then disqualifying those options. The real sneaky thing here is that there are no well-known 80's pop duos, so this conversation can last a long time, and that allows you to segue into a deeper conversation.
Here are a few of the options you can talk to them about:
• "I was thinking Sonny and Cher would be a good one, because the Pug dog is a male and the Beagle dog is a female. But they're 70's, not 80's, so that won't work."
• "Maybe Axel and Slash would be good, but they're rock n' roll hairband style, plus one of the dogs is a female, so that won't work at all."
• "Milli Vanilli was a thought, but those are both guy names. We need a female name. Plus, Milli doesn't fit a Pug or a Beagle. That's more of a Jack Russel Terrier name."
And no matter what option your targets present you, find a way to disqualify it. Then use the times your target's think about names to engage them in some other respect.
This can be a fun Opener to do and can really open the doors to further conversation if you play it right.
--The "StuffedMonkey" Opener
This is an Opener I came up with when I was first starting to learn to approach any woman, anytime, anywhere I may be. I find it's a good, solid way of Opening women who are by themselves or in groups at any venue you may be at.
Simply approach your target and say the following:
"Hey guys, I need a quick female opinion on something. My ten year old niece has a birthday coming up, and she really likes stuffed animals. And I can't decide whether to get her a pink stuffed monkey, or a white stuffed tiger. She has lots of bears and stuff already, but I think she'd like a different animal. Which one would you get her?"
Then after they answer, hit them with the question "Why?" to open up the conversation.
Your target may ask you more questions about your niece or whatnot before answering. Just tell them whatever you want. No matter what they choose, debate them on it, saying you missed your niece's birthday last year so you want this to be special.
If they asked why you missed her birthday, use this to jump into an interesting story you may have about traveling or going on vacation.
--The "Snooping Girlfriend" Opener
This Opener works well in any situation with any number of women.
This is because it has to do with a relationship related problem that many women can identify with. At times I've seen women get into a heated debate over this one, which can be entertaining to watch.
It's a slightly longer Opener than you may be used to, but it's a good one none the less.
"Hey guys, I need a female perspective on something. This'll only take a minute.
Is it normal for girls to snoop?
Because my buddy's girlfriend just found a shoebox he keeps hidden in a dresser drawer, and she's really upset about it.
It's nothing bad, just pictures of him and ex-girlfriends on vacation and old love letters he got in high school and stuff. But for some reason his girlfriend is freaking out about this and wants him to get rid of it or she's threatening to break up with him.
Is this normal female behavior?"
So you'll get your target's perspective on this, and then follow it up with this:
"Okay, there's a second part to this story.
The reason his girlfriend started snooping around was because she was using his computer one day, and in the computer she found a CD that had all these homemade pictures of my buddy and his ex-girlfriends having sex.
I guess he was looking at them and forgot he left the CD in the computer.
But for some reason, his girlfriend isn't upset about THAT.
What upset her more was the box of love letters.
Why do you think that is?"
From here, there are many places you can take the conversation. They are as follows:
• Does your target think your friend should break up with his girlfriend because she's being unreasonable?
• Don't girls usually keep mementos from past relationships? Why is it wrong for a guy to do the same?
• Have they ever snooped when they were in a relationship? Don't they think that's a bad idea?
Those are just a few examples.
Occasionally, a girl may say "Oh, you're talking about yourself aren't you?" To which you will want to act all shy and say something like "Awww, you caught me. You're so smart! Who are you? Nancy Drew?" And then continue with the story.
Don't deny that the story is about you, because the girl probably won't believe you anyway and you'll look like a liar.
Best just to shrug it off and forge ahead.
--The "Two" Opener
This is not really a concrete example of an "Opener," rather a type of Opener that you can use with anything that is different but similar.
Basically, it's meant to quickly engage someone in an opinion that doesn't require much thought, and then follow up with the question "Why?" You can use any two things you want, as long as they are similar in some way.
Here are some examples of the "Two" Opener:
• Hey, real quick, which do you think was better, Star Wars or the Empire Strikes Back? (Get Answer) Why?
• Hey, which do you prefer - Barbie or Skipper? (Get Answer) Why?
• Hey, do you like coffee or tea better? (Get Answer) Why?
• Hey, which do you think better - Diet Coke or Diet Pepsi? (Get Answer) Why?
• Hey, what do you think is cooler to listen to - 80's music or 90's music? (Get Answer) Why?
These are good ones to use in low key situations such as on the street, at the bus stop, in line, in coffee shops, bookstores, grocery stores, what have you.
--The "FirstImpression" Opener
Like the "Two" Opener, the "First Impression" Opener isn't a concrete example of an Opener, rather just a type of an Opinion Opener.
It's where you have something that is unique or interesting about yourself or what you are wearing, and you ask people what their first impression of that is.
For instance, one I like to use is if I'm wearing a thumb ring. I'll walk up to my target, hold out my hand, and say:
"Hey guys, first impressions. thumb rings on a man. Looks good or no?
"Yo, guys, first impressions. men with shaved heads. What do you think?"
Another example of this type of Opinion Opener is when I bought some square tipped shoes. I'd walk up to women and say:
"Hey guys, first impressions. square tipped shoes. Better than the regular kind? What do you think?"
Usually taking something interesting that you're wearing and getting a woman's opinions on it is a good way to engage them, because women love to talk about fashion.
One drawback to this is that it gives the girl the opportunity to judge you. But if you have a good story prepared as to why you are wearing what you are and why you like it, then that negates what your target has to think of it anyway.
Regardless, this is a good way to engage a girl right off the bat.
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